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My boyfriend and I were so perfectly happy, until one night he broke up with me.They were together for a year before she broke up with him because she didn't want commitment and she wanted someone with money. She had a boyfriend while we were together but was texting him and saying she missed him. A few weeks b4 he left me, he told me his ex had broke it off with her boyfriend. I am so crushed and don't want to get out of bed. The pain or thoughts doesn't stop! We have only been split up for a week! They seem so happy. It's so unbeilevable to me!!! I am in shock every day... And can't help but cry. They get to be so happy.

Post edited by: Sohurt, at: 10/06/2010 12:33 AM

Well it's pretty crappy that she left him based on money #1, and even crappier that she takes him back knowing he is taken. She is selfish and she will do it again. Are you prepared to take him back after they break up again? He is selfish too. Time will heal you, and you can mend your heart an move on. I know you don't want to, and I know the crushing weight off despair on your shoulders, but you deserve a better life.(((hugs)))

I know eventually things will get easier, but It helps to hear others say what my ex did is a little crazy. I keep thinking this is not what people do to other people! Thank you for validating my thoughts. Also I could never let him re-enter my life. It does hurt k owing I have to make that choice.... And knowing with that choice I will never see him again, but it's the safest route for me.

I think that situation would shock anyone.

Take care of yourself, just take one day at a time.

I'm so sorry you've been hurt like this. So very sorry.

I don't know if it helps, but she sounds like she's not a very good catch anyways. If she left him because of money then, she will likely do it again. She sounds very materialistic. I think he will get back what he's dished out to you. Karma.

Take it one day at a time.

Sohurt, I am so very sorry for what you are going through my ex BPSO did something very similar and it hurts deeply. If you ever need to talk feel free to PM me. Take care

Hang in there. You deserve a better life than that. And I have been where you are...what helps (a little) is to try to picture your life in a year or two versus their life. Like someone else said...karma

sohurt

that is really hard and probably has you in a state of shock. Try to move slowly, think ahead, do little things that feel good, and not expect yourself to feel great right away. what he did is way too out there. I hope youcan find your way to freedom asap.

Thanks for all the caring responses. I know I'll never desire him in any kind of relationship, but I was so convinced we/he were happy. We did everything/ spent every moment together. He was very caring, concerned with my life, affectionate, let me ask him anything and talked it out with me, introduced me to his family and friends/son, encouraged me to have a relationship with them all, called & text me all the time, planned special time and get aways for us. Plus so much more. I was so convinced.... I cry now knowing I can't ever trust because I can't trust my self to do so. I have so many men asking me out but I blow them all off because I ask my self "why would I date." How does anyone ever trust thier decisions again. I can't ever let anyone close again. How do you change that?

Thanks for all the caring responses. I know I'll never desire him in any kind of relationship, but I was so convinced we/he were happy. We did everything/ spent every moment together. He was very caring, concerned with my life, affectionate, let me ask him anything and talked it out with me, introduced me to his family and friends/son, encouraged me to have a relationship with them all, called & text me all the time, planned special time and get aways for us. Plus so much more. I was so convinced.... I cry now knowing I can't ever trust because I can't trust my self to do so. I have so many men asking me out but I blow them all off because I ask my self "why would I date." How does anyone ever trust thier decisions again. I can't ever let anyone close again. How do you change that?