Bipolar Spouses Online Support Group

Okay, so I'm the patient-est (wth?) of all patient online girlfriends, and I'm a little confused.

He sent me a happy message, and it included his ex expecting him to be Superman, which he clarified, meant she expected him to do "all these things" for the baby. I sent one back saying, "I'm glad you clarified because I thought you meant she expected you to wear a blue leotard with your red underwear on the outside." ;p

I followed that up with, "Do you want to talk, or you know, what?" I can't remember my exact words, sorry. I was indicating his priority on playing his game, which he's not done, and no doubt, he's in a bit of withdrawal.

He sent me back one, a little defensive, saying he's in his living room, on his own, and I have nothing to worry about. NEWSFLASH JACK: I already know that, as well as I can. The message I sent basically said that, that my mind hadn't even gone there, and at the end, "I know better."

He replied, "Don't give me that BS you know better. Anyway, I'm off to play a game so do not be sending me messages. 10 minute game, DO NOT DO IT," and yeah, he sounded jovial. Next minute, I got another message...

"I'm in pre-game lobby, which means I'm waiting for a game to start. Do not text me while I'm in pre-game lobby. What part of that do you not understand?"

My reaction? WTF? I hadn't sent him anything--and why would I? He was respectful in his request.

As soon as I could, and yeah, he was back in the pre-game lobby, I texted, "I haven't sent you another message besides this one. How long am I supposed to wait to send it?"

His response was a bit weird: "Look, I'm not getting into all this BS with how long am I supposed to wait. I'm on my own, alright. I'm in the living room. You've got nothing to worry about, alright?" He actually sounded pretty calm, but totally missing the point.

All I sent back was, "This is not about L. I trust you. I know you're finding that hard to believe, but I do."

I'm thinking of hanging up comms for the night. Anyone got distraction suggestions? Sewing, I find, doesn't help with this. Got mega cleaning I could do, but it doesn't really help either, although I could probably take breaks, or something.

Okay, I went ahead and sent him a message saying:

I"m just glad you sound happy. I'm going off now. I hope you enjoy the rest of your visit and that I get to see pics soon!

Any thoughts on how I did?

I was a bit peeved, to be honest. Still have to sort out my own feelings, but at least I didn't verbally vomit on him, because I was close to it.

Distractions: Do you have a TV? If you do, I can recommend a few things. My students alerted me to the addicting properties (for them) of "Jersey Shore."

I cannot look away when some shows come on. Billy the Exterminator, Dog (Bounty Hunter), Dog Whisperer. I don't set my DVR to record every one of these shows. I would not have time to watch them. But when I am done with work and I look at what's on? These shows divert me.

I do not know if you are crafty. I aspire to be crafty (my mom makes her own baskets!) but am not very successful. I do like painting. So a couple years ago I started painting Christmas ornaments as gifts.

Reading. I don't know what you like to read but I love reading. I read for a living, in some ways. (Historian.) When I was in a bad place? I kept reading the history books I had to, but I also discovered a couple categories of trashy books that I liked. Don't be afraid to embrace your trashy book side, is all I am saying.

*giggle* Trashy book side. XD

Yeah, I have Netflix through my Xbox. I got double-charged this past month, which is good, because I have an account Jack isn't on and can't see me and I can't him, and I've switched to that. Got Monsters, Inc on just now, but it's memorized, and so, I could watch or leave it.

I'm trying SO HARD not to check and see if he replied to me. I'm sure he hasn't, anyway. I'll save my disappointment for the morning.

I'm starting to get SO tired, as well. Maybe I can actually sleep, now that I know things are going fairly well.

As for reading, I've got several books going. Dracula, Inkheart (reading as slowly as possible, because I can't afford the other two, yet, lol), reviewing science for hopefully some job interviews, and...well, I've got loads of anthologies I"ve started. lol. Ooh, I might need to read another Jane Austen.

Jack is an amateur history buff. If I find something interesting, I'll be tempted to run to him on it. Better to steer clear, for now. ;p

Thanks for the ideas.

I'm gonna go with the idea that he WANTS me to be jealous, while not doing anything wrong. I can appreciate it, if that's the case. He gets the benefit of knowing that I care about him enough to be at least a tiny bit worried about him and the predicament he's in, without him actually hurting our relationship.

I can oblige wishes and whims when they are innocent, and there is no manipulation behind them.

How's the navigation going? (private joke there)

And u know I think he enjoys thinking or knowing that you could even be the tiniest bit jealous.

I don't think there's anything wrong with a lil playful jealousy every now and again.

I like it when a partner is a little bit jealous. Not stalker jealous, but that raised eyebrow jealous. Alas, my husband is not! And his sisters tell me he has never been! He is kind of zen about it--"if my relationship is so bad and I don't recognize that, then she might look outside it. So I will work on the relationship." I told you in a PM that my hubby considered selling his sports car to raise 5 grand for my dental surgeries. He LOVES that car. It has not one scratch. He sends me "I love you" emails every day and is liberal with ecards. One thing I love is that when I leave town, he will print up little notes (he is creative--some are on blue paper, some on red, some cut in irregular patterns) and will stick them all over my packed luggage and in my wallet. Some are love notes and some are X-rated. (blush) So I get to the hotel and unpack and all the time I am gone, I am finding his love/lust notes. I guess I can live without the jealousy. But I wish he were a teeny bit jealous.

It's alright when the batteries are in. *giggle*

Okay, it's not THAT kind of private joke. ;p

Awe, married! I think you just made every female here a tiny bit jealous. Your hubby is so sweet...

LMAO! On Status Shuffle on facebook, which I've never used before, it says: I never get jealous when I see my ex with someone else, because my parents always taught me to give my used toys to the less fortunate.

XD