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10/04/2010 06:51 AM

Does that make me BP

2ndtimearound
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10/04/2010 07:06 AM
SupaFred
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I guess that makes me bi-polar as well then. I think it's a natural desire to want normalcy that we just don't get at home from our spouses.

10/04/2010 10:07 AM
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I feel that way also, but the difference is: We want to run because we need love in our lives. We have none at home.It is normal to seek basic fundamental needs. You would search for food if you were hungry.

The BP spouse has love at home and they run... it's right in front of them, which is why they always come back. They are trying to run from themselves in reality.

So= you are not BP for feeling perfectly normal and wanting emotional nutrition. Wink


10/04/2010 10:33 PM
2ndtimearound
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Post edited by: 2ndtimearound, at: 10/18/2010 04:08 AM

10/04/2010 10:44 PM
marriedtoit
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2nd...I assumed you were not actually considering it when you posted. I did not reply because of that. Your husband may be manic, and what he says may not be what he actually means.

It is totally human to want to feel loved, and to have sex and to feel desired. But I would ask you to take a really deep breath and think about how you will feel about yourself (forget about your BPSO now) if you go out and have a fling. If you think you will be able to do this (have a fling) and feel okay about it, go for it. Why make a fetish of your vows? If they mean nothing to him, why should they mean something to you? But I would urge you to search your heart and ask yourself if you will really feel okay about this. JMO.


10/04/2010 11:00 PM
livinginablender
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On many levels, we show others how we wish to be treated.

You may want to re think this idea.


10/04/2010 11:05 PM
stolenheart
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I second what married and blender said.

With the BP person, you may be opening Pandora's box, here, if you decide upon a fling. I know that I would never be forgiven if I consummated my relationship with Jack, then got with someone else. I also have some experience with knowing that if I had someone on the side, he'd get someone on the side.


10/05/2010 06:36 AM
2ndtimearound
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Post edited by: 2ndtimearound, at: 10/18/2010 04:09 AM

10/05/2010 06:48 AM
rch
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2nd

The relationship is showing no signs of committment or a future. 11 years and not married is already something to wonder about. He is having a relationship online and has cheated with your cousin? I say ditch him. He is not being there for you. You do not need his permission to go and live your life. He is bp and he is cheating. She is upset that you saw the email??? Screwed up, hon. I hope you get yourself free.


10/05/2010 06:49 AM
Lena
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I honestly think that what you described sounds like hypo mania. I believe you could be bipolar.
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