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Never has he done this in all our years together. Could it be the anti psychotic that he is on? I'm thinking not. But, we watched a scary movie (dvd) on Saturday night and when I went upstairs, husband was in bed sleeping with the lights on. He told me the next morning after watching that movie, he couldn't sleep without the light on.

Another time before he started his medications, he actually yelled at a scary part in a movie. What do you think is going on here? He is a grown man.

When my husband was in the hospital he was afraid to be there alone especially at night.

After about three nights of sleeping on the couch there I asked his Dad to come and give me a break.

I had to work Wednesday, Thursday. and Friday and couldn't handle sleeping there every night and getting up at 5 am to go into work.

His Dad was shocked that he was that fearful.

Damsel

I'm not sure what is causing him to react that way. I know I can't watch scary movies anymore. I can picture it for days. My mind makes it all too real. I can see myself doing those things and it scares the hell out of me. Or those things happening to people that I know. I just stay away now.

Hmmm.. interesting. The movie was about a guy that probably hears voices and can't cope and commits crimes. He was slowly going insane. I watched it the night before alone, cause husband was in bed. I got it at Walmart.... 2 for $10.00 cheap movies. I like scary movies, so I bought it. It was hard to understand, so I didn't realize it was about that. I just thought it was a freaky wierd movie. But, when I watched it again the next night with husband and son, we pieced together what the message was in the show. Omg... I wouldn't have put it on, if I had realized this. And husband seems so good lately.... we had been boating that day, and he was fine.

I think he may be hearing voices at times, and I never ever thought this would happen. Can this be bipolar? This is freaking me out. What is happening to him... he was fairly normal. Can this be from his anti psychotic medication?

Post edited by: frazzled, at: 07/26/2010 12:30 PM

I've heard that some antipsychotics do cause that. I'm not sure which ones. I take Geodon and it take away the voices for me. It could be that he needs a stronger dosage also. Make sure you find out what the side effects are of the meds. Plus a combination of different meds may cause these symptoms. Also as a person gets older different things can come about. I didn't start really seeing things until my late 20's. I've always heard things as long as I can remember.

I told his psyche nurse on the phone about the voice incident and a few other things. She didn't say anything about his medication being the cause. But, then she basically just listens to me and doesn't offer much info. either. Husband has not mentioned about hearing anymore voices, but then he won't tell me much of anything, cause I mean who would, he doesn't want me to know he has any problems. He does sleep with the radio on at night. I'm wondering if it's because he does hear voices. I'm gonna have to ask him.

As far as I know, he never heard voices before his medication, then again, he has always had the radio on at night throughout our entire marriage. Whenever he gets really stressed too, he turns on the radio.

Post edited by: frazzled, at: 07/26/2010 12:51 PM

Most likely he needs a higher dosage for the voices to stop. Well they don't really ever stop. I'm just a point where I can tolerate them. I have more visual hallucinations then anything now. Shadows and things like that. I can see how listening to the radio would help in that case. It never dawned on me because for the longest time I would always have to have the radio on also.

Maybe the nurse will do something on the next visit. Let's hope so. Hearing voices is never fun. Mine always wanted me to hurt myself. I worked with power tools so I'm sure you can think of the damage I could have caused with that.

Bipolar people can easily get obsessed with what ever and they can begin to follow all kind of impulses especially while manic. I would never watch movies like that with a bipolar loved one. I don't believe it is the anti psychotic medication, it might be his psychotic mind though.

I know, I am still adjusting to the fact that he has this illness. He has improved since he started his medication a few months ago. But, he wasn't diagnosed with bp, as far as they are telling me. And he was good that day, we went out on our boat, enjoyed the sun etc. So, I just feel he is his old self, but didn't realize it bothered him, until I saw the light on when he was in bed. Like a kid does that. So, now I know, we can't watch those kinds of movies anymore.

I am worried about the voices though now. Talking about it on here (the movie and light on) now makes me realize that maybe he does hear them, like on the show, and sees shadows like this guy in the show did. That unnerves me. So, I should ask him about this too. He probably won't admit it though, like he doesn't tell his pdoc either.

We were also talking yesterday, and he has such a bad memory, which is off topic here, but I think he thinks he may have a split personality, can't remember some of the things he has done. This just can't be plain depression. I'm pretty sure he has told the psyche nurse not to tell me it is bp depression. Or he just doesn't tell them anything and he can come across as really normal when he wants to.

Post edited by: frazzled, at: 07/26/2010 02:42 PM

Frazzled, my hubby has a bad memory, too. Looking back, I would put the times he forgot with him being manic. He seems to remember things when he's depressed. Not sure if I'm spot on with this, but this is what I've pieced together. Like the issues that I've been posting with my MIL... we were talking this weekend and discussing his mom and how she makes him manic. Well, she REALLY sets him off.. like for a BAD manic spell. Anyhow, every time she has done it he doesn't remember what happened that day. He doesn't remember Valentines day at all or where we went (she had made him manic that day) and I was surprised.

Interesting what dragonsblood said about the voices as well. Hubby also hears voices and they tell him to hurt himself.

I wouldn't let the issues with voices and all bother you. Things around here have been great (MIL issues aside). I'm not sure if he still hears voices. He hasn't mentioned it. But, he has said that all the suicidal thoughts are completely gone. So, I'd think maybe the voices are gone.. or at least very quiet compared to the past.

My hubby didn't like me leaving him when he was in the hospital either. I felt like he was desperate for me to stay, but hesitant to ask me to stay. So, I stayed for as long as it was possible and then came home to get some sleep. He was beginning to get paranoid at night and having some mixed mania/depression so his doc added lithium. So, hopefully this helps with that soon. When he is paranoid, he wants me to watch tv with him, so I do.