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and my boss, who I'm sure has some MAJOR behavioral problems.... told the Production Manager that he was having his girlfriend come in at 10:00 a.m. to go over the books with me...WTF???? You don't trust me????? I've been doing this for a YEAR for you.... His behavior reminds me so much of hubby (even WAY more paranoid) that I know this man needs to be on meds....

But I need the money so bad, there isn't anything I can say... She showed up and wasted three hours of my time today, explaining what I've been doing in QuickBooks.... This guys just loves to have his 'overly-endowed' girlfriends running his office for him, even if they don't know what they're doing....

I finally reached the Production Manager by phone a little while ago and asked him: "Should I even bother coming in tomorrow?????" He said yes, but I expect to be fired by the end of the day tomorrow....

I don't know how much lower this can go. (I've done nothing wrong, other than the fact that I can't keep up with this man's demands... Gee, I wonder whey I'm suffering from depression????)

Sorry... probably posted this in the wrong forum but no longer give a ****.

What is going on with us?

Basically the same thing happened to me only I didn't post it here I don't think several weeks ago.

So do you really have reason to think you are in trouble?

Because I got very upset and everything is going okay now as far as I know.

Damsel

This guy is so pyscho, it's not even funny... Why would he have his girlfriend come in and waste three hours of my time???? I'm only working 20--25 hours per week right now, and I can't keep up with what they expect...

Production manager thinks I should go in tomorrow, so I will report back again when I get home.... (I'm so depressed right and worn out right now I don't even care what happens...)

No, you didn't post what happened.... Please, make my day and let me know....

So you're only working like half shifts?

But you're supposed to get all of the work done?

That sounds really fair.

Damsel

Well for me it started with the other nurses and in particular this nurse that followed me. When I cut my hours back they made a spot for me 6:30-1:00 every other weekend. I was so depressed thinking 12 hours a pay period?

Damsel

It's a treatment nurse spot and although I usually did my own treatments I've never really worked the whole building. Actually long long time ago just 4-8 pm in the evening and things were different then.

Well this nurse that follows me started getting very nit picky. I go in and do everything marked for 7-3 shift right? Well she started leaving lists on my time card of other things to do. At about the same time the staff nurses started asking me to do more things, which I was happy to do, and the aids started asking me to pass trays and feed. Well I was so busy trying to accommodate everyone that sometimes I didn't get all of the 7-3 things done or I would do them and just not get them signed.

Damsel

So I would communicate with the nurse following me at the end of my shift and to my face she would act like everything was fine, but then she'd leave a note on my time card asking did I do this? cause it wasn't signed and it was ridiculous stuff too not something she needed to go back and do or maybe something ordered twice a day so lady just go in and do yours and don't worry about it. She was getting very anal about it and it's no big deal I would have seen the empty spot the next day and signed it. One day in particular I could hardly get my own stuff done and I stayed 20 minutes over running around and finishing up- I did not go back to the book then and sign off I clocked out and explained the situation to her she shook her head and said okay but then the next day was when I found that note, had I done this, had I done that. I was furious! She even knew I was staying just so I could get those things done.

Then another time I did a depression scale on someone and I had to look back through the person's chart to find it. I did the test on them and put it on the treatment book and signed it off. She called me in a horrible tone after I left and said I had only done half of it. Well to be honest it wasn't half there are just two different tests. An mmse and what's the other one called-the one they do in doctor's offices. Well I didn't even know that. I told her the tests were not on the treatment book and I had to go hunting for it. She still gave me no slack. I apologized but I thought bitch! Call me at home and talk to me like that? She acts like this is rocket science and it is not. It would not have hurt a thing if she would have repeated both parts again! It's really ridiculous!

So let's see. The next thing happened on Valentine's day. I got pulled to the floor and the shift would usually end at 3. I felt so guilty because I got pulled both days to stay until 3 and my husband was saying he needed to go into work too to work on a presentation so I decided that second day I would leave at 1pm. So I ran around and got all my work done early. She only had meds to give to one person and I left her my cell phone number in case I forgot anything. Well she never called and I got a call from my boss two days later being accused of forgetting an entire med pass!

Damsel

It didn't come out that way at first my boss just asked if I had trouble with my med pass. I told her no I didn't in fact I got it all done early. She also asked me if I get a lot of phone calls. I told her no I don't.

That I had my phone but the only time I used it was at break or lunch and then I told her you know what I will not bring my phone at all and then no one can say anything at all about it. I had taken my break at the desk that day so that is what the girls were bitching about I guess I should have announced okay I'm taking my 15 minute break. I checked my emails and sat there and ate a granola bar and then I went right back to work! Jeepers but I didn't even admit to that.

Anyway so it just so happened that husband was suppposed to fly to Mexico but missed his flight so I decided to go in and check the book and see how bad it was. Well I had missed signing for some meds but I had given all but one and I honestly did miss it.

I had missed it actually on the Saturday it was a 2 o'clock pill and then the bitch had caught it the next day. The only other thing was lidoderm patches to two of the residents that am which is not a big deal. They are ordered with the first am meds and they were eating breakfast and I meant to go back and put them on and because I was doing one thing after another I did forget to go back. I told her next time I would just lay them out so I didn't forget. And honestly with me not being familiar with that hall or that book I just need to go over it several times but I had given those meds just not signed.

Well apparently the aids were spreading a rumor that I said I had forgotten a whole med pass which is just ridiculous. I would have to be senile to do that, so I was really hurt by what they said.

I have changed the entire way I do my treatments now and I make a list of all of the 7-3 items and make sure I go through and sign everything off before I leave so no one can say a word. Now I know this may sound really basic and you might think well I can see where someone might question it, but they are pulling me all over the place to do piddly things to where I am distracted from my real purpose of being there.

I thought I heard one of the nurses saying they were supposed to find any documentation they could to prove that basically I'm incompetent and it just won't happen. I am too smart for that. They for whatever reason have just decided to give me a hard time and that is what they are doing and it isn't even warranted. I did last week when they were telling me oh you can do this and that just came out and said that is scheduled for another shift so it can wait. I want to get my work done first then if I have extra time I will do extra.

My boss was just fine with my whole explanation and she just called and asked me to work Easter so I don't think she has any problem with me. It's just people trying to start stuff. It makes me a little sad. I have been there so long. But I guess none of that matters.

Damsel

I have to tell you though the aid that is accusing me of not doing an entire med pass as if how would she know? The aids took turns taking their lunches as I ran all of the meds up and down the hall so that I could leave at 1 pm-they just assume since I did not have the cart out in the hall at that time that I did not pass meds at all-dorks! Sorry!

But that aid I think has a personality disorder. She is not right and did not talk to people in an appropriate way. I worked with her when I was there full time and I probably screwed up royally to not get her fired when I could. I had reported her behavior and what I was hearing was one more thing and she was out of there. Well several more things happened but I didn't want to see her lose her job. Some thanks I get. She gets crazy ideas in her head and passes them on and people actually believe them. If they only knew the whole story is all I can say. I have been a dedicated worker there for a long time and gone beyond the call of duty. I don't deserve to be treated this way by anyone. I guess since some time has passed I can put it into perspective a bit.

I do hope things get smoothed over for you Warhorse.

I was soooooo upset when it all was happening to me and I probably made a bigger deal of it than what I should have, but I just didn't know. As I heard the content of the rumors I was a bit in shock. And from what I hear the rumors go all the way to the top of administration. I just don't know about that place any more honestly! You don't know who to trust and who not to!

Damsel