Untreated bipolar husband, hanging on by a thread

This is a hard time in life, all of the things that we percieve to be our future become blurred. Howerver, there is a future... sometimes just because we do not see the path beneath our feet does not mean the path is not there. Hang in there, the path will become clear again. Just walk by faith.

GOD BLESS

RED

Sorry to hear you are going thru such a hard time. My wife also fled when she became manic last fall. She also wanted divorce, needed to be alone, spent like a millionaire, portrayed me as abusive, etc, etc. Once we got her on the RIGHT medication, she stabilized, is now at home and life has returned to "normal".

Has your husband been diagnosed? Is he taking any medication? I am far from an expert, but from the mood swings and mania you describe, he may be bipolar. He should probably see a psychiatrist to get diagnosed. If he won't seek treatment, there isn't much you can do. You can't force him. All you can do is control yourself. You could try setting some boundaries, like if he won't get treatment, then you are leaving him.

Your top priority is to take care of yourself and your children. How are you holding up? When my wife became manic, I went downhill very quickly, but thru the support and advise of my wifes family, and the fine people on this website, I took care of myself. You are the only stability in your childrens life and they need you to be healthy and strong.

Let us know how things are going in the coming days.

Paul

My advice is: let him go. Your love won't cure him. If he refuses to get treatment, you are much better off without him and so are the kids.

Just my .02..........

Good luck in whatever you decide.

Paul

Post edited by: NewDayDawning, at: 05/19/2008 13:57