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05/17/2008 05:18
splem
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Hello, I'm new to this board...I am 46 soon to be 47, I have a 22 y/o son living with me w/bipolar...He has been out of work for 4-5 months and is doing nothing to get back on his feet....He has spoken about how he could kill me my ex and my boyfriend but says he wouldn't do it...Just the idea that he thinks of it scares me....He is talking about taking his own life...

He has been in and out of rehabs through his high school years....He has been acting very weird lately, and spending day in and day out in his room....His sleeping patterns are weird....I think he may be on drugs again...I'm not sure, I do know he is acting so weird and I just can't live like this anymore...

He is up all night, and cat naps through out the day, he is just so vulgar and on edge all of the time...He's constantly making noise...

I am at the end of my rope....I feel I can't support someone emotionally that is not helping themself or doing anything to deal with his life and Bi-Polar....I'm tired, and feel I can't help him anymore...I want him out of hear...

I feel he's lying to me and is just being a leach right now....Does anyone have any advice? Sue

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05/17/2008 05:34
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Hi, Sue.

First I want to start by saying welcome to the group. I'm sorry for what you are going through. I can't relate directly to what you're going through, as it is my husband who has bipolar disorder.

I'm not sure if this will help, but it sounds like your son might be manic. The sleeping patterns, aggresion and so on. Is he seeing a therapist and is he on medication? And if so, is he taking it? (Sounds like he may have stopped). If he is threatening suicide, I think you could have him hospitalized for observation. (They've hospitalized my husband in the past for this).

I feel that it is within your rights to set guidelines for your son. He is an adult. If he will not take responsibilty for his illness by getting proper help, you should not have to put up with the mental abuse he is putting you through. Tell him that he cannot continue to live with you like this. (I know that's probably easier said than done).

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Terri

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05/17/2008 11:02
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Hi Sue, welcome to you. Kids don't come with instructions so we as parents do the best we can. We have the responsibility of loving them for the rest of our lives, but there comes a time when raising them is finished..My own theory is that until they leave the nest to live on their own, we are responsible still to guide and care for them. But, after they have taken the step toward independence by moving out, they are responsible for themselves. May I ask how long your son has been living with you? Has he ever left the nest to live on his own? You'll get through this. We're here when you need to talk or ask for suggestions or just keep us informed.

Gloria

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05/17/2008 18:36
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Hello, Thank you for sharing, I appreciate it very much....My son is 22 and has lived with me all of his life...I just am at ends with him....I don't believe he is doing drugs, I think he is just hi and low do to his bi-polor...I understand, my partner doesn't understand bi-polar, It's very exhausting living with my sons highs and lows, I'm at ends with him...I just don't know what to do, we don't know when he's going to explode......My son is constantly in his room playing video games....He has started dating a nice girl and is depending on her to help him get a job....He doesn't take the initiative to do anything on his own...He was doing so good , he lost a great job, with good benefits because he was sick off and on for about two months...He gets stressed out so easily and it makes him sick....I'm trying so hard to be supportive but it's just so hard, he's exhausting to live with....Sue
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06/13/2008 20:26
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Hi splem,

I am new to this board too. If it means anything my husband sounds just like your son. I don't know as much as I need to about bipolar yet but what I do know is when my husband is having mania. It does sound like your son is having a mania attack. At 41 years old my husband is constantly on a laptop computer or playing video games. Although he has a job right now he has been fired more times since I've known him than anybody I have known in my life! Not to scare you, but imagine your son to still be living with you at 41! I would take the threats seriously about killing himself. In my situation I came out of a previously abusive marriage and was almost killed...so tonight my husband was arrested because he has been in a mania and he tired to punch me in the face. He only hit my arm but they still took him away. I would get in touch with a hospital right away before it comes to violence.

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