I was working at home doing ebay graphics etc computer stuff and put money back at his uncles assistance which he was right I never knew what was going to happen.
John became very posessive would NOT allow me to work and controlling to extreme.
He got into a manic state and it lasted a LONG time years about three. He went for days with no sleep then would crash.
The things I was doing to make money were going down the tubes. I decided to take the money I had put back and go to a two year RN program so I can be on my feet if he flipped out and if needed I could support both of us if he cant work which I was told by his uncle ( uncle by marriage he is married to his aunt) and by the bi polar counclier.
I had a 4.0 on deans list in honor program. John was NEVER home just to come in shower eat and sleep if any. He became obsessed with collecting stuff and piled it everywhere. I was NOT allowed to clean it or get rid of it or organize it in any way. He brought home moldy books They were BLACK stunk and I kept taking them out of the house. he threathened to divorice me over the books. the next thing I know they were under the couch I found them from teh strong odor.
He kept going and picking up stuff no one wanted like old tvs that did not work he had no clue how to fix. he brought one in and sat in the floor I put it outside. it was broke and not fixable. he was supposed to haul it to the dump for some coworker. I put it outside and when I was not home he put in attic. He never used good judgement. he sat a peice of cardboad down and the tv on it and the cardboard did not hold and the ENTIRE celing fell with all the stuff he had piled up there. I was in house and me and my dogs were lucky to have survived.
I called him at work to tell him he said it was not his problem. I spent 12 hours cleaning it up before he finally came home.
codes came many times. he always thought everyone was out to get him.
he could say " my pretty ( my name) then turn around in the same breath say
You are so ulgy and you are a dried up useless old woman
I am not into you
or you are just undesirable and no man would want you"
we did not have sex because of these reasons he gave me
I NEVER ran around on him
I even asked him after telling him I would not hold it against him if he were gay he said no
he could get stuck on something and obsess with it
you could not talk to him logically
he mostly was not rational
he could go on for hours on and on and on and on
he kept me up day and night and this is when he allowed me to work
for me to give him my entire months paycheck so he can purchase a rat farm
( a getto rat farm) the big giant rats
that way I can stay home and feed them so he can sell them to pet stores for 2.00 each
his hygene went down the tubes
he could go back and forth
could have good days where he seemed normal
I was told this is called cycling
then he got to where it was back and forth constantly
he is VERY EXtremely intellegent
but he dont use it or use comon sence mostly
you can talk to him and he seems normal then he says something very strange
or his moods will go back and forth
He was NOT always like this
There was a normal john under the madness
I was taking summer classes last year
I was cleaning up for codes because he got us into trouble again
he called me and told me to go pick up my divorce papers
he had told them that I moved out and he did not know where I was at
I had not left
so his attorney said I had to leave and
the reasons were
john said I started school and he did not know I was in school
this IS NOT TRUE he KNEW we talked about it before
I had a cell phone
and I was putting miles on a car for no reason ( to go to school)
I KNOW HE NEEDS help
I tried to get him help
I have not lived with him in a year
but it breaks my heart to see him like this and NOTHING I can do
I watched him deterioate slowly and more speedy the last three years
he will get worse
the way it works in his family the older they get the worse it gets
he was so sweet and such a goood person
his is sick
its not his fault
and his family dont care about him
they are totally dysfunctional
no not trying to get back with him
I feel Its my responsibity to help him
he will only get worse
omg there is so much so so so much
