There was a big problem at his school last year, when 3 other children were bulling him, and the school did nothing about this problem. I made over a dozen trips to the office from Jan. to May but nothing was done about the problem. I have decided to home school him this year, I hope that I have made the right decision.

His mother is not even in the picture and has not been for awhile. His dad calls him at least once a week or more. He has a lot of anger at his mother, he does not understand why she does not love him. She left him with me when he was only 18 months old, and for a short time would jump in and out of his life. Then when he was 6 years old, she went to his school and kidnapped him. I got him back by 6:00 the same day. We had to go to court and she was proven unfit, because it had been over 2 years since she had seen him before she took him from school. She has not seen or talked to him since then.

I have learned so much about Bipolar, I was married to my sons father for 21 years and he was Bipolar. It is so different, a child with Bipolar and an adult with Bipolar. Sometimes I just get so tired, I just don't know what to do. Thanks for listening.

I also have a grandson that is 10 yrs old and is ADD as well as bipolar and Aspergers. As you say dealing with an adult rather than a child is completely different. It is as you say so tiring, and I to can become so weiry. It has helped me to know that there are people here that understand what you are going through, and really can relate to the disorders and the behaviors. No one asks you " why does he act that way "? or "what's the matter with his" can't you do something with him" Why don't you just make him mind, on and on..... kids do pick on these children; and the are usually behind in social skills, Come chat anytime, it helps to release the frustration and some of the locked up emotion... I have done the same thing you have done; all we can do it make sure they get as much help as possible, read as much as we can, learn the skills used in disciplining, and guideing these children. Even with that, it takes soooooo very much patience. There is nothing easy about it, and staying on track is hard... We have been very lucky; the school is on board with a great program for children like my grandson, and they really work with his mother and him. They have been great. We go through the changes in Meds all the time... I think because they are still growing and things change. We have a great physcologist; he loves to go see him.. there is just so much involved. PM me anytime to chat; I came to the board for the same reason, I was just so tired and needed people that know where you are coming from to listen and say "I understand"

Babblej

Thanks for your reply. I have been reading lots on this site and find it very helpful. We have raised 5 children and our grandson is so different in every way. He is so smart, beyond his age. He would rather talk with adults than with children his own age.

He has been having problems sleeping for the past couple of weeks, his doctor does not want to change his meds because they have been working good for the past three years. I took him off of one of his meds, because it made him very angry all of the time. I would rather see him hyper than angry.

After he was diagnosed with Bipolar, I found out that there are 6 people on his mothers side that have Bipolar. So he has a double dose, because his dads father has Bipolar.

Sometimes he can be so good and then there are the times when he is so bad. I have come to realize that the bad times, he has no control over them. He wants to be good, but some times he just can not be good.

Sometimes he scares me with his talk about remembering things, things that he should not remember. He talks about remembering the day he was born, How can he remember that? And the funny thing about that is what he says is true, and no one has told him about these things. He remembers things that happened when he was 8 months old also, that no one has ever told him. The first time he told me about remembering things and what he remembered, just floored me. I did not know what to say. He remembered details that I had even forgotten. He has lived with me since the day he came home from the hospital, and I have actually had him since he was 18 months old. I know that he has not been told about these things he remembers, so how can a child remember things from such a young age? This is very scary and I do not understand this. I read one post that talked about the "Indigo Child", so I did a little research yesterday about that, and "wow" that is something that makes your mind think.

Thanks for listening and understanding. It sure does help to know that I am not alone in this.

Scooter418

It is amazing that your grandson has such a memory. I have read about the children that have such sensitivies, and yes it does give food for thought. What the human mind is capable is such wonder. Living through raising all these children with ADD etc, gives you alot of experience with it, and a lot of information, but still does not give us all we need at times to cope emotionally. That's where we come in.

Has the school he attends put him in any kind of peer groups that share his disorders? or any kind of anger management classes. The doctor has taught my grandson some great tricks for channeling his anger. He amazes me sometimes when he will bring up "looks like an anger management issue to me" I have to just laugh, they are so cute. And are so innocent. Has your grandson made any little friends? If not he will; it just takes one to make all the difference in the world. We have talked with our grandsons friends parents to let them know that at times he may have some problems, and if so just let us know. We don't go into detail, but they are great with him, chances are if they child likes to play with your grandson they have a lot in common so alot of the issues just slide away. His friends mother always tells me that he is a pleasure to have around and is so polite. Sometimes as bad as it sounds I think "are we talking about the same child.?" That alone makes me feel better, he is just like any other kid, they always behave better with someone elses parents HAHH>..

I'm sure there are a lot of folks on the forum that have great books to suggest. For the most part I research on the web. There is just so much information now; I wish I had available to me when I was raising my children.

There was one medication that made my grandson very angry also. His mother talked to the dr about it and they switched to something different. He still needed that type of medicaton, just something different. I'm not good about the names of all the things they have tried him on. My daughter keeps track of all of his meds. Since they have all moved in with me, things have slowly but surely gotten so much better than before. I struggle with myself every day.....

Here's to limping along together on this weiry path,

Babblej