Bipolar in the family Support Group

I'M SURE YOU ALL KNOW ME AND FOR THOSE WHO DONT,HELLO.. THESE PAST 3 YRS OF MY LIFE I HAVE SPENT TRING TO FIX AND LOVE A BIPOLAR MAN.HE JUST GOT OUT OF THE HOSPITAL A LITTLE OVER A MONTH AGO, WELL WITH IN ONE WEEK HE WAS TAKING THE MEDS THE DR. GAVE HIM AND STILL SELF MEDICATIED ,WELL HERE WE ARE AGAIN AND HE WANTS TO GO BACK TO THE HOSPITAL BECAUSE HE STOPPED TAKING HIS MEDS FROM DR. AND JUST WENT WILD ,ALTHOUGH HE ISNT HERE HE IS AT A FREINDS APARTMENT HE WANTS ME TO GO TO THE HOSPITAL WITH HIM,, WHICH I WOULDNT MIND SO ICAN TELL THE THE EXTREME TRUTH, BUT HE IS FREAKING AND I MEAN FREAKING OUT WANTING SEX BEFORE HE GOES,,,IN NOWAY ,SHAPE, OR FORM AM I MENTALLY ABLE OR DO I WANT TO HAVE SEX WITH HIM HE IS SO OFF RIGHT NOW THAT HIS SEES NOTHING IN THE RIGHT PERSECTIVE...NOTHING,, I'M NOT SURE IF I EVEN CAN OR WANT TO GO TO THE HOSPITAL WITH HIM MUCH LESS HAVE SEX,, I FEEL LIKE I NEED TO BE IN THE HOSPITAL, I JUST HAD A SERIOUS PANIC ATTACK BEFORE I STRATED THIS , I AM SHAKING SO BAD ,AND SICK TO MY STOMACH, I JUST WANT TO HAVE AS CLOSE TO A NORMAL LIFE AS POSSIABLE,,HIS MOM AND DAD ARE ON MY SIDE AND STAYED ON THE PHONE UNTILL I COULD GET MY MEDS AND CAUGHT MY BREATHE, SHE IS GETTING READY TO TAKE HIM TO THE HOSPITAL.. I JUST WANT TO KNOW HAS ANYONE ELSE HAD TO GO THROUGH THIS AND WILL HE EVER SEE HOW BAD HIS ILNESS IS,,NOONE CAN DEAL WITH HIM,, MY FREIND STRATED CRING WHEN SHE SSN HOW HE ACTED AND HIS LIL WH@#E EVEN DUMP HIM AFTER 2 DAYS...WHAT CAN BE DONE TO MAKE HIM REALIZE HE IS GOING TO LOSE EVERYTHING TO JAIL OR HELL......I CANT.. AND I AM LOSING MY MIND MORE AMD MORE EACH DAY.....PLEASE SOMEONE TALK TO ME!!!????

Fighter,,,,,,,, lets talk..!!!!!

I'll listen you talk.... are you still there?? Step back,use some of your relaxation tools so you can start to breath. I have the anxiety attacks also. Sounds like you have a support team behind you, they won't let anything happen to you... Unfortunetly he did a great job of pushing every button he knew of for his departing statement... He will be in a safe place to get the help he needs now, so it will allow you to breathe again and get the relief as well as help you need. I know I said I'd listen ; so I will end for now, just vent all you need to so that you can get the thoughts out of your head, and start breathing again.

Babblej

Hi fighter.

You know I'm always here to talk to you. I know what you have been going thru, it sure must be difficult. Many will say you should leave him, me included, but that is so much easier said than done. How do you know when you reach that point, where you give up on someone you love. It crossed my mind MANY times, when Karen was manic, and not taking her meds, and portraying me as abusive, and demanding divorce. I was this close to contacting a lawyer and giving her what she wanted, but didn't. And it turned out ok for me, but it always doesn't. Either way, I am behind you and support you in whatever you decide.

I know he has been fooling around with another woman, so NO SEX. There is the risk of transmitting STD's.

It's good that he wants to go back into the hospital, but don't necessarily get your hopes up that things will change when he gets out. You need to lay down some SERIOUS rules when he does get out. NO DRINKING! TAKE HIS MEDS! COMPLY WITH ALL OF HIS TRETMENT! Put the responsibility on him to prove to you that he is doing these things. If he can't do it, then you have some serious decisions to make.

Let us know how thing go and if he makes it to the hospital.

Talk to you soon,

Paul

I'm listening!! I'm sending you hugs and all the strength you need to get through this.

Hi Fighter! I know what you are going through and it is hard. A break is a great thing right now, hospital or not, just so you have a minute to get your head together. Why he wants sex is because that is common during mania. It is impossible to make sense out of nonsense. So don't bother. He is seriously mentally ill. He isn't going to "get" anything right now. The hospital is definately the best place for him. It takes a long time for the medication to work. My g/f has been on the right meds for about a month and she still is swinging her highs have leveled a little but her lows have plummeted even lower then before.

No matter what he does, you have to take care of yourself and your family. That means that you need to set boundries, like Paul said. And get some therapy for you. Also, going to Alanon is a huge help for a lot of us.

Fighter: My heart is breaking for you right now. I have asked my prayer group to include you.

HE IS IN COMPLETE DENIAL, REM HE IS ON PROBATION,,HE IS TRIPPIN AND ASS IN AROUND NOT WANTING TO GO RIGHT NOW HE IS STALLING,

Boy do I know about the stalling. Karen found all kinds of little things that needed to be done when it was time to go to the hospital. Be as persistant as you can, although, as you know, you can't force him. He seems close to accepting that he need to go back into the hospital, as Karen was, and we were usually pretty successful if we kept insisting she go. Is he still at his friends? Maybe you and his parents can go over there to offer a ride and encourage him.

Let us know.

Paul

NOONE CAN FIND HIM AT ALL NOW DO I CALL HIS PO?????????WHAT THIS IS GETTING OUT OF HAND,,,,,,,HE WILL BE HERE AFTER HE SPENDS ALL HIS MONEY AND IM NOT HAVING IT,,,WHAT WOULD YOU DO?????????????????????????????

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