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05/20/2008 08:03
Momofboys
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 Woke up this morning being screamed at because my hubby tripped and cut himself. Everyone's fault but his. Panic attack is in full swing this morning. He couldn't find his cell phone, so again it was my fault.Don't you love things being your fault even though you were sleeping

My mom is flying in tonight for a week to visit and I swear I will go nuts if he is like this the entire time.:

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05/20/2008 13:03
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 GOOD LUCK!!! I know that puts more stress than normal. does you mom know he is bipolar?
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05/20/2008 16:32
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 Yes she does. She is the only one in my family that I can talk to comfortably to about it. but I don't bombard her. She has to deal with my brother, I think he is depressed.

She gets along quite well with my hubby, in fact she gets along with pretty much everyone. For some odd reason she likes to clean my house when I am out, so I can tell you right there he is going to love that

I can admit it, I am not the best housekeeper in the world, things get pushed to the side sometimes



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05/29/2008 11:40
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 Well my mom went back home yesterday. By Tuesday night she wanted to strangle my husband. He was so flipping cranky half the time she was here. His excuse was the doctor just upped his meds. Fine, whatever. He did apologize to my mom. But she was in shock with what I have to live with on a daily basis. She got to see a side of him that he normally hides from family. In a way I was glad she did notice, it gave her some deeper understanding of the times I have called her crying. She couldn't get over his "me, me, me" attitude. I tried to explain to her that BP people always think of themselves first when they are manic and also that they cannot help it. She also asked if he treats his parents the same and I said yes, but it is nothing compared to how his sister treats and abuses them. She is 100 times worse. But I will not go into that again
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05/29/2008 12:01
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 Uh oh, momofboys.....please be careful when sayin things like..............

"BP people always think of themselves first..." I get very defensive when we BPer's are all wrapped into the same ball of wax. During my worst BP moments I put my kids and grand kids first....

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05/29/2008 14:00
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 I have to agree with MomofBoys on this one because my own personal experiences with my fiance' and best friend who have bipolar have been the same, and so I can relate to what MomofBoys has experienced. It does become all about them BUT it's only when they are having a manic episode and it's sometimes embarrasing to other people around them who are not aware of their condition and don't know what's going on, and it has caused problems in public before. Most of my friends and family know that he has bipolar but don't know the extent of the illness when he gets extreme. I recognize that this is not him normally and wish other people could see that.

I wish he would think of other people like morningglory/oldglory does in her worst BP moments with her kids and grand kids so I applaud her on that! I just haven't experienced that side of him yet, and I wish I could.


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05/29/2008 14:52
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 Morning Glory, I did not mean to offend. I am glad you are able to put your family first. My husband (when manic) and sister-in-law(even when not manic) always put themselves first over everyone else. And from what I have read here, it sounds like many spouses do the same. I am glad you are an exception because I value the things you say and it has helped me understand my husband much better. He always tells me that I will never understand the things that go on his head, but I feel with this forum and people like you, that I am getting a peek into it.

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05/29/2008 15:01
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 Hell girl, the wind offends me...lolol I'm kidding. You absolutely did not offend me because you try so hard to understand. I am not so shallow that I think everyone should think like me. lol I know it's hard not to lump us, because we all have the same disease. Like cancer though, the signs and symptome vary with the person afflicted....
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06/07/2008 20:52
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 I get the "it's all my fault" for everything too. It doesn't matter what it is, it's my fault. I'm sorry to hear that you are going through that. Right now I'm probably not the best support. My husband is now going to bed before 7:00 pm every night. That of course is....you guessed it! My Fault. I understand completely. I think my husband needs different drugs. I'm here for you anytime. Hug Hug Hug

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06/07/2008 20:56
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 So how do we find relief when we are so overwhelmed that we can't cope anymore. I love my husband, but am seriously ready to call it quits. I can't live like this! I need some major help right away. I'm so overly depressed over my father's death and some other things that are going on that I can't deal with this bipolar stuff now. I need some love, understanding and companionship! I sure don't get it from my husband! He's too busy feeling sorry for himself and blaming me for everything wrong in his life.

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