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05/20/2008 12:56
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 well i guess i was just having a bad day, he was trying to hide and drink which really made me mad since he is on medds just recently--but i have to admit he is doing better than he was . but when i finally lost it yesterday i took his beer out to his little building throw it on the couch and said here you picked your wife now stay out here and dont bother me aslong as your gonna drink and i locked the doors ,he came straight to the door and wasnt drinking i just guess everybody has a differnt situation/but still uncanny same in ways oh yeah i still think his meds need to be ajusted-and sometimes i guess i vent and just dont realize i might be just talking about my situation..............................................
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05/20/2008 17:11
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 I would like to add some of my own experiences here. My husband just got out of a 2 month stay in the hospital on Friday. He's been manic since January. At the height of his mania he kept demanding that we needed counseling if we were to stay married. The hospital has recommended this for us and the local mental health center is going to set it up for us. They also told me that I will have to set limits with him and that I will not be the one to "save" our marriage. This is an area in which I feel I am making great growth in. I am dealing better with all people by telling myself that I cannot control what other people do but I can control my reactions and actions. I really haven't much of a problem with most people but there is always someone who gets to you....

Tonight was our first real conflict. He is under orders not to drive until the doctor releases him to. He asked me to give him my keys to MY van(I have worked very hard for every penny that has gone into this car and it is in my name only(pre-marriage name). This is the only working vehicle we have right now. I told him that I would not let him drive until he has been cleared by the doctor. Now he's telling me that I am trying to control him and I have to choose between him and the government. I recognize this as his manipulation and part of his thought processes with this illness. I think he is not totally back to himself yet.

I really needed to vent and get this out of my head so I can be normal! (Whatever that is....)

"Peace is not the absence of conflict, but the ability to cope with it" ---------- I believe it!!

"Peace is not the absence of conflict, but the ability to cope with it"
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05/20/2008 18:54
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 it is ns always be about control with them, no matter what it is. The dating, the wedding, the house, the car, the pet, the kids, etc. If it were easy to tell you not to control, I wouldn't be here...
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05/20/2008 19:53
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 my husband wants time apart and i think i have no choice but to give it to him, only i fear for both.
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05/21/2008 04:41
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 Hi, faithhopegal!

In my experience, they are released from the hospital before being 100% back. That must have been so hard on you having him gone for so long, and I'm sure you will both need to readjust to being together again. I did after just two weeks.

But, if he continues with his meds. and doctor visits, things should be improving a little each day. Joint counseling sounds like an excellent idea. Wishing you the best!

Zapito, it might be a good idea to have some time apart. Maybe he just feels that he needs some space and time alone to get his thoughts together. Hope things work out for you both!

Most people don't know that there are angels whose only job is to make sure you don't get too comfortable & fall asleep & miss your life - Brian Andreas
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05/21/2008 12:28
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 We all got the same problem w/ different situations some more alike than others, but thats what makes this place so great, we know we are not alone!!! It help to vent, also it help to have people that have a clue that this thig is really real,Dont you all think? I have only been here for a short while but i think it is a wonderful place,and a great place just to talk sometimes and get our minds on something else,Isnt that right clever,hahaha.. but getting advise and helping other people gives us all a since of such agreat feeling....AND KNOWING WE ARNT ALONE!!! THANKS TO ALL!!!!!!!I WILL ALWAYS BE HERE TO TALK, AND I KNOW YALL WILL TOO!!!!!! LOTS OF LOVE--ANGIE--
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05/28/2008 16:01
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 I have a bipolar husband and am confused by his behavior everyday. He no longer supports me emotionally or financially. He has been diagnosed with a dual disorder of bipolar and addiction. I have been with this man for over thirteen years and we have three children together. He was diagnosed bipolar alittle over three years ago. I cannot understand why he doesn't realize the hurt that he has caused. He is on his meds but not therapy. Always finds a way to avoid it. Since we have next to no money he goes to the local mental health where he can pay on a sliding scale and only sees the doctor that dictates his meds not the therapist. I feel that if he really wanted to understand and treat his disorder he would do therapy. He will not do anything without me scheduling it for him. With three kids already this is a major burden! Know that you are not alone in your struggles. I and many many others deal with the emotions, heartbreak and betrayl everyday. Dealing with this disorder can make you feel like you are all alone. YOUR NOT! Seek counseling or just post/vent here. We are all here for you.


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05/28/2008 17:50
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 OK now that really does sound like my situation with slight variation. We went to the local mental health facility today. Not only did we meet with the NP but the pdoc met with us too. I dropped off my observations from the last 2 weeks (since coming home from the hospital) so I think that had something to do with it. The doc strongly suggested therapy for him to deal with his childhood trauma and therapy for us. I really hope this comes through for us. Sometimes I wonder how much longer I can deal with this. I love him dearly but in the year and 1/2 we've been married a year has been almost unbearable.

hmm guess I had a little venting to do....he's not my only issues now though. Has dealing with an episode put any other loved ones into a depression? I seem to go in and out of an intense hopeless feeling daily.

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05/29/2008 09:54
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 Yes, depression can be contagious. I've experienced this as well. Having to always be the responsible one, the one to clean up the other person's messes, can be really draining and exhausting. I think it's your mind's way of telling you that you need a break from it all.

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05/29/2008 10:04
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 I made the intial appointments for my g/f when she was manic and psychotic. But once the psychosis subsided I let her know that I expected her to take it from here. So far she has. She makes her appointments two a week one with pdoc the other a therapist and takes her medication. It annoys her when I ask her if she's taken her meds so I try to only do when I think she hasn't and she looks comfy in bed. lol. Like she might not get back up. It is hers to deal with I can't do it for her. I can be there to help her in her fight. But I can't fight it for her. If she isn't doing what she has to do, then I have to leave. It just isn't safe. I am, I guess lucky, that she had moments of clarity in her psychotic episodes where she realized that there was something really wrong and agreed to go to the doctor. If she hadn't our six year relationship would have ended for saftey reasons if nothing else.
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