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04/20/2008 06:09 PM

I think I don't have patience and it scares me

sweetsp81

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I met my gf online and I knew she was bipolar. we spoke for 3 years and finally lived in the same city for the past 1. I didn't think much of her bipolar because i never thought that she portrayed any symptoms, boy was I wrong. My gf is not only bipolar but also diagnosed szchitzophrenic and I just went throught and still going through a horrible episode and I dont know if I am going to have the patience to do this or be able to be her supporter. Her family keeps it in the closet and acts like she will get fine and trust that she takes her medicine, when I just found out that she has not been taking any medicine for the past 2 years. I am a little scared on what I need to do. What do you guys think?

04/20/2008 06:17 PM Top

glory

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hi sweets, I think that if you decide to stay you should expect the unexpected. If your GF really loves you, she will get help and be serious about conforming to doctors orders. Mental illness is very serious and you can't take it lightly. Without medical intervention, my opinion is it can only get worse. You will not help her by saying nothing. The only way you can help is by making the first ground rule......get medical care. Best of luck, sweet, if you stay, you will need it.

Gloria

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We forget to be thankful.
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04/20/2008 06:34 PM Top

plugginalong

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sounds like they are a little too 'laissez faire' about a pretty serious issue. you have been led to think that things with BP are more or less 'simple' but, thinking such things while actually being faced with bp and szchitzophrenia? might be be like thinking because you have drivers-licence, you can now fly a plane.

coming here is probably a good start. get educated and you'll see that you need to make some serious decisions as to what to do.

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04/20/2008 07:31 PM Top

glory

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plug.....may I ask you who is being flip about BP? Who are,"they"?

Gloria

"We Know We Are Out Of Step When"

We cannot walk a straight line.
We've stepped on our brother's foot.
We forget to be thankful.
We feel alone.
We think our dance is the only dance there is.

Previous discussions I participated in:
OUR PETS
New Member
sounds scary

04/21/2008 07:10 AM Top
keepthefaith Posts: 848 Senior Member	Gloria, I don't wanna speak for plug, but the impression I got was when he refered to "they", he was talking about her family. Sweets, If you love her, than you need to encourage her to see a psychiatrist, find and take the right medication, and get into therapy. That, by far, seems to be the most common advise to treat BPDO. I learned that I couldn't force my BP wife to do these things, but also learned that there were things that I could control. Like taking care of myself. Learn all you can about BPDO and maybe get into some therapy for yourself to learn how to deal with a BPSO. IT IS NOT EASY! And only you can decide when you can't take it any more and move on. But keep in mind, success is possible. I, along with others on this forum, can attest to that. Keep your chin up. Paul Previous discussions I participated in: Difficulty sleeping need advice/support Remind me to be patient

04/21/2008 12:16 PM Top

glory

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OK Paul, thank you.

"We Know We Are Out Of Step When"

We cannot walk a straight line.
We've stepped on our brother's foot.
We forget to be thankful.
We feel alone.
We think our dance is the only dance there is.

Previous discussions I participated in:
OUR PETS
New Member
sounds scary

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