Joshua, welcome to the group. There is nothing you can do to fix her, she has to want to get the help for herself. Do not fight with her, expecially in mania, as you will not win. It is only percieved as a challange. Do not take what she says personally it is the bipolar coming through. What you can do... Get in touch with her pdoc, tell them what you see happening. They cannot respond to you or discuss the case by law, but the law does not stop them from listening. What they do with the information from there is up to them, send them copies of the e-mails if necessary. Hopefully what they will do is take it under advisement and use it as a way point to watch for these things happening in her. Take advantage of those times when she is between swings to talk to her about getting back in to the pdoc and what is happening. What to do for you. Get into counciling yourself. It will help you to better understand what the two of you are going through and help you to develop coping methods for yourself. Do something for yourself, remember your mental and physical health are of great importance. You cannot help when she needs it the most if you are not at your best. Depression is comon in us as the loved ones of a person with bipolar, the counciling along with medication for yourself if necessary will help. We tend to ride the rollercoaster with them, unless we intentionally get off. Love her for who she is, you know her better than anyone. Stay focused on the person you know is in there. With the proper medical attention that person will reappear. While the medications do not cure bipolar they do help it be controllable. We are here for you, YOU ARE NOT ALONE! GOD BLESS RED |
