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03/12/2008 22:20
MandS10
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 Hope someone can help. I started dating a man 6 months ago who later admited that he has been diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder and an Eating Disorder-Bulimia Nervosa. I constantly feel that I'm at fault for everything and seem to be "walking on eggshells" most of the time. I'm unsure as to whether he will be "in one of his moods" and wonder many times whether I should stay in the relationship. When he is "not cycling" he is a wonderful man and is very good to me. I am also a Therapist by profession and may possibly be more sensitive to his mood changes as I'm keenly aware of the signs. The extreme ups and downs are so difficult to handle but I find myself staying in the relationship for one reason or another. Any suggestions?? Thanks!
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03/12/2008 22:35
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 You know what you have to do....Do you need validation? I give you permission..get the hell away from him and never look back. Exactly why would you stay in a relationship that is so new, yet causing you pain already?? I don't get it. How old are you Mand, if I may ask? I am 58 and have been BP for most of those years, if not all of them. As a therapist you have got to know that there is real danger here. He not only has one major mental disorder, he has TWO!!! Do you think that you can help him because of your title, Mand. It just won't work...besides being unethical. Do you seriously want to be in a relationship that dictates your moods by his sensitivities?? Good golly I hope not!

Think long & hard on this thing, Mand.....life is very very short.

Gloria

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03/13/2008 02:05
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 Hmmmmm, that is something that you probably already know the anwer to in your heart.

I will be completely honest and say that you will be picking a very hard life path for yourself, Especially if you think you will be in for the long hall and decide to have a family etc. I would never change the path that I have chosen (my husband is bipolar) but it can be a hard path to follow sometimes. I have 2 small children and as my children grow up in this situation I have now come to realise that if my husband does not take charge of his illness and get better then I will have to raise these children seperately from him - no matter how much I love him - I will have to put my kids first if things dont improve.

I am sure that there are a lots of relationships that survive this illness - but am sure there are more that dont.

You have to ensure that you will be getting your needs met in the relationship.

best wishes to you and a very hard desision :0)
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03/13/2008 04:35
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 Thanks so much for the eye opener. Just needed some reassurance. Yes, I do believe that I'm attracted to the relationship because of my profession. I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt. Given the fact that I'm a psychologist I thought I could be understanding and accepting of his disorders. As you probably know, Doctors make the worst patients. In this case, I'm really not following my own advise! Thanks again for being so candid. Mand
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