My husband and I went on Friday. My husband expressed how he just wants a divorce and wants me to "buy" him out of our house so he has money to live. I said that won't happen and pretty much laughed. My husband also complained about how he doesn't get any attention. It's always about him! I could count the ways over the years he's ignored me or not shown me any attention, but I was too busy raising our kids and not thinking of "me" only. Our counselor asked me a question and while trying to answer my husband was verbally all over me and interrupting. Finally, I lost it and told him if he shut the f*** up I could answer. With that, my husband stormed out of there and told our counselor he was not returning and thanked him for everything. Then, our counselor and I spoke for another ten minutes or so and he told me there is no point in making another appointment. He said that we have come a long way, in that we have both made progress, but how my husband really wants out of this marriage. My husband is medicated for his BP, is less angry and we hardly argue anymore (contrary to how our session went). I have become less co-dependent and am stronger. Our counselor told me that neither one of us is willing to give in. My husband just wants us to be a "couple" and go out all the time and I want him to spend more time with our children as a family. So, needless to say, my husband came home that night from counseling with drinks and cigarettes for me and told me he was going to our son's baseball game. He's been home all weekend and hasn't muttered one word about our session. I just can't believe counseling ended that way. Our counselor did say to call him if anything changes for another appointment, but if he doesn't hear from me by mid-week it sounds as if he's giving our time slot to someone else. I am at a loss for words right now and don't know whether I am coming or going. "Three grand essentials to happiness in this life are something to do, something to love, and something to hope for." - Joseph Addison
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