Bipolar in the family Support Group

I am sorry that you are not feeling that you are getting support right now. This group is mainly for support of family members/loved ones of people with bipolar disorder, but both groups have members that have bp or have relationships with them. I belong to and post at both sites.

Many people come here with anger and a need to vent. I can understand that. But as the wife of a wonderful man that has bipolar, I do take offense at name calling. I believe it is one of the reasons that many of those with bipolar have difficulty accepting and getting treatment for it. I'm sure you didn't really mean it, and are just upset right now.

Please feel free to share your story, post and vent, as needed. I hope we can be of help to you,

Terri

The bipolar support group is for people with bp, although I post there regularly and get tons of support. BP in the Family is for people who have a loved one suffering with BP. I get support here too but I have made great friendships in the other room and choose to spend most of my time there.

Nutcase is a realtive term. I happen to consider myself a nutcase. I would suspect that someone who comes into a mental health forum and uses that word to describe members might also be a fry short of a happy meal themselves!

The only two people who responded to your post in the other forum were Norma and Krissy. Both people I consider to be good friends of mine. Just because people don't fluff up your butt and tell you what you want to hear doesn't make it any less true.

Lots of people come in and out of this room like they're caught in a revolving door. They blame everything on BP as if that explains it all and lump BPs into a box. You can't do that. BP is a mood spectrum disorder. And even within that spectrum, BPs can live, laugh and love. How convienient is it to blame BP when someone stops loving you?

Maybe you were a miserable, mean spirited person that lashed out all the time when they got angry and he felt like he had no one to talk to? Maybe you're someone who feels sorry for themselves and likes to blame everyone else for their own problems?

Look at yourself. YOU are the only person you need to worry about changing.

And if this sounds harsh, I am not feeling very warm and charitable either.

Post edited by: bejeweled, at: 07/21/2008 11:09

Here is the link in the Bipolar Group that Peepers is refering to as being answered by "nut cases".

As one of the nutcases, which I am seriously considering having printed on my business cards, I can only say that you are a sad person. I feel so sorry for you.

Guys please read the above link. I think you will see that Peepers is having a bad day. We all do. And as for the heading BP NASTINESS. That is easily forgiven when considering the source of the post. Someone in pain, lashing out at others.

I provided the link for you to come here Peepers, because I knew there were lots of caring people who might be able to help you. Looks like they are trying

Good luck, dear.

signed, Nutcase Norma

Maybe one day we can all live in a world where name calling and prejudice is not allowed. Where the content of your character and the way you treat others is how you are judged. Where if you are black, white, a woman or a man, have a mental illness, or are different from other people it is understood and you are not put into a category by it. Maybe...one day, but, not today, and not by you Peepers...

I waited before posting this second reply. It just kept eating at me that no matter how much we try and fit in, and act responsibly, and do what is good and right, there is always, going to be someone who has to do something to try and make us feel small and less than human. I refuse to do that Peepers, I refuse to let you do that to me. And I especially refuse to let you do that to my son, who also has biplolar and is one of the finest people who you could ever meet. We are not nutcases, we are smart, honest, real people who have a disorder that affects the chemistry in our brains.

And trying to help someone who refuses to help themselves is a lot like trying to teach a pig to sing...it wastes your time and annoys the pig.