I have lots of posts here. You might find them good for dealing with some of your grief. Please post anything that you need help or just vent whatever. That is why we are here.

Hugs to you and a shoulder.

Lori

Welcome to the group I am very sorry for your loss. My dad was like yours after my mom died he was totally lost. She was the proverbial glue that held it all together. within a year of her death he had met up with an old flame from college. I remember how hurt we kids all were that it was such a short time. He too felt he couldn't be alone. they actually became engaged even though all three of us kids couldn't accept her in our lives. We were all teenagers at the time. However as a little more time passed he realized she was not interested in having his children be apart of her life. in the end he broke it off because his children were more important. I don't know how old you or your siblings are, but at any age it hurts to think he's replacing your mother so soon. Keep in mind that your mother can never be replaced. He too is grieving and handling it in a very different way. It may take him a little time to realize this relationship is part of his greiving. As hard as it is try not to let this get in between your relationship with your dad you need each other.Voice your feelings to him but try not to be judgemental so that he feels comfortable in discussing his feelings too. Hopefully once he realizes he has his children to support him in his grief he'll look at the whole picture differently. your family has already been through so much trauma you all need to find a way to keep everyone together and not let others come in between you. I hope this makes sense

Post edited by: Rachele01, at: 03/15/2008 17:07

Hope that made some sens.

Love,

Susie