Bereavement Support Group

Hi Everyone, I am new to the group and wanted to introduce myself. I am 25 years old and lost my mother almost 3 years ago. I was the one to find her in her apartment after she passed. I am an only child and was left responsible for her estate. A huge responsibility for a 22 year old to take on. My mom battled with alcoholism, anxiety, and depression for most of her life and unfortunately we were not able to provide her with the help she needed to get better. She was a wonderful mother despite everyone's negative opinion about alcoholics. Everyone pictures these people who stagger around the house and who are violent and disconnected. This was not the person that my mother was. Anytime I needed help or guidance my Mom was the first person I called. She always answered the phone with "Hi Baby" in a soft and soothing voice. She was always the first one to step in and take charge and provide direction when I did not know what to do. Now, I have lost that. I got engaged 2 years ago, graduated from college, and am pursuing a Master's degree without my mother. All of these things were so bitter sweet. The first person I wanted to call was my Mom when my fiance popped the question. I had to walk across the stage at my graduation looking up instead of out into the audience. It hurts so much because my Mom did everything she could in life to get me where I am and she is not with me to enjoy it. When I get married and have children, she will not be there physically and it pains me more than I can even explain. Although it will be 3 years in September since she died, it feels like yesterday. I went through counseling for about 4 months through the University where I attend and that was really beneficial. I look forward to talking with everyone on here and thank-you for listening to my story.

First I want to welcome you here. I am sorry for your loss of your mother. it is hard to lose a parent. There is no time limit on grieving.There are many stages of grief and not everyone goes through things the same way.

I believe your mom did see you during your graduation and engagement. She was smiling down at you and as proud as can be.

We are here for you. We all understand and care. Several of us have loss our moms. I am looking forward to getting to know you better. Hugs I always have a shoulder to cry on if you need to. Biggest hugs

I can really appreciate how you feel. I lost my mum 5 years ago. I also got married, graduated from university and all the wonderful things I know she would have been proud off I couldn't share with her.

When I get these days I light a candle in her honor. It doesn't change anything but I like to think that she is living through me. I am after all half of her and whilst her memory burns she is still alive in my heart.

I believe we can allow our loved ones to live through us. We start doing things they would want. We become more empathetic towards others. Hopefully we will show them how much we love them by honoring them. hugs

It is so nice to read everyone's comments on here. I'm praying for you JGirl as I am in your place now too. My mother has been in the ICU almost 4 weeks now on a ventilator after she stopped breathing at my wedding reception. They have told us now that her kidneys are failing and if things don't improve in the next day or so we are going to have to make a decision about keeping her on the ventilator. Although I see you are still in great pain over your mother's loss, you are surviving, as it seems we all are on here. I'll be praying for a better tomorrow for us both.

In love,

Carrie

Im sorry Carrie to hear about your mother... You and your mother will be in my thoughts and prayers...I am one of the group leaders here and when you are ready and comfortable,feel free to post your story and we are here for you....Hugs

Welcome JGirl, Sorry for the loss of your mom. It must be so hard to go through all those milestones without your mother. What strength you have to have accomplished so much. It really shows all the values your mother instilled in you. You have obviously had to mature faster than most your age too. I'm Rachele, one of the group leaders. Hoping you find the support and healing you need. Everyone here is wonderfully caring. Many of us have lost our mom's and know how hard it is to live without them. Sending over some hugs.

Welcome to the group. I am sorry for the loss of your mother. I understand alcoholism and I am in AA and very much into recovery. May

God rest her soul.