Bereavement Support Group

I think it would be good to talk about the hard part and if we did well what we did. For me it was basically Dealing with my sister. She wouldnt let me have a part in the service even though she had me pay for everything. I went ahead and bought mom's favorite flowers and had the granchildren put them n her grave.

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Hard part had to see my sister at the service and know thats she's a drama queen I don't think she cared as much she was putting off that she did. my brothers knew she's a drama queen and it all was a act .I had so many hard parts too many to mention .

What did you do to take care of that hurt? Maybe writing down the parts she said and did that were wrong. and letting it out constructively will help.

Talking to whoever will listen .But I rather she feels the pain that she caused my parents so she would understand how she made them feel so she can change .I guess thats wishful thinking because that would never happen she's selfish and has no feelings unless it's about her and only her Thank you for listening to me

The hardest part fo me is the fact that there are 3 of us my sister, brother and myself. While my sister and I had never been close growing up we were all just teenagers when we lost our parents. I eventually moved 1200 + miles away to make my own life. I am closer with my brother but still in some ways it feels I have lost my entire family not just my parents

Hey Snoopy - I know where you are coming from there. I too live 1000 miles away from home. I have NO relatives here (well, my kids but they are young) and almost all the other relatives have passed away. Since I left 18 years ago, I have lost 3 aunts or aunts in law, two uncles, 3 cousins and my mother. There are no more aunts or uncles left. And the cousins are spread out so far apart from east coast to west coast. Just leaves me and my brother (1000 miles away) and a completely dysfunctional sister.

What is it with certain family members (in my case my sister) completely taking over funeral arrangements? When mom died, my sister tried to overrule my dad, my brother and me. It was like she was the only one who mattered.

Cherylann welcome to the group of having dysfuntional sisters. there are a few of us here. I have been getting all worked up because my brother and sister are coming into town for a wedding of a friend of ours. Luckily they will be staying closer to the wedding(about 45mins frim me). this way I really only have to see her at the wedding and not spend too much time with her. I know that sounds horrible but it works better that way. She still feels after all these years she needs to be my mother. I can't get it through her head I don't need another one.

Mine does to, snoopy.What is the problem with our sisters.

they just are not the exceptional humanbeings that we are. LOL