Tania, that is a horrible experience and I am so sorry that someone could do something like that to a person. That part that you lost or at least some of the piece you feel are missing have to do with TRUST. When we suffer a loss of any sort we lose trust in ourselves, our world and we put up a protective shield to keep us from things that from experience have learned they can not be tursted. Not everyone is going to hurt you and let you down in trust and in faith but to open yourself up to that chance someone will is just too risky and we hide. We dont expose ourselves, we dont risk and be dont allow others the faith that it takes in someone to entrust and honour your feelings and wants, needs and dreams. It takes courage to confront the truth, it can only be pushed down inside for so long and it wants out. It is reminding you of the person inside that STILL is there and still wanting to be respected and loved. You will come through this, you just need to expose yourself with faith. Work through the pain and acknowledge your fears. They need validated, get angry and learn to justify your anger. With all this work you will soon find forgiveness inside you for you. Not the things that were done to you but for allowing it to control you. I am sorry this goes on and i can feel the tension building inside me to think of stuff like this. Talk often. It really does help to get it all out. we are here for you. I promise you. Karen x Almost everyone worries about what to say to people who are grieving. But knowing how to listen is much more important.
PLEASE BE AWARE I AM NOT A DOCTOR OR A HEATH PROFESSIONAL I AM A SURVIVOR OF LOSS AND AM HERE TO SHARE AND HELP WHERE AND WHEN I CAN. |
