Bereavement Support Group

well about 4 years ago my stepdad died but he was more than that to me he brought me up from being 3 so he was my dad he helped me when i needed it, he looked afta me more than what my real dad did or does, i mean i do love my dad and i know im really lucky to have him i just cant help but miss Dave, i havnt even cried for him properly yet i must be the worst person in the world for not doing it, i feel awful i kno more people here need more help than me, as i always think there is always someone worse of than yourself but i cant help but think about it now and its getting me down so much.

Welcome and I am sorrry for the loss of your stepdad. YOu are not terrrible for not crying. You may need a little help in getting your feelings out. Here is a good start but there are also grief therapists out there and sometimes even groups that may be in an area near you. Hoping that this will be the beginning of you finding some comfort, understanding and healing. Warm welcome hugs. Rachele

Welcome siobhan21 to the group...Im sorry for your loss...Feel free to post here anytime and know that you are not alone...Also counseling and therapy can help...Hope you will find comfort and understanding here...(((((((((HUGS))))))))

Grief is handled differently by each person. I would begin to cry when my mom died, then suddenly the tears would "freeze up". It has been about 6 years since my mom died and I haven't cried as much as many do. I think it's partly because I know my mom would be sad if she knew I was crying over her. She always said it was better to remember the person as living, when they were happy and active... so that's what I try to do.

I hope you find peace within yourself.

Sometimes I think feelings run so deep we push them into little boxes and shelve them. I try to only get sad every so often or I feel like I'll implode. Sometimes, I do.

Don't let anyone tell you you're doing anything wrong. You are still grieving, and will the rest of your life. You've suffered a terrible loss. Maybe the reason you came to this site is that you're ready to face some of those boxed up feelings. I find the diary to be really helpful. Sometimes I just write and cry.

Take care of yourself! Sara