Bereavement Support Group

Where do I begin? I lost my husband 322 days ago unexpectedly to an anuerysm. Worse yet He died at home and my children that were 6 and 9 saw what happened. Lets add to that by saying 14 days prior to my husbands death we had just received a report that said our son was autistic. This is just to sad to even keep writing about. I just don't know.

I am so sorry for the unexpected loss of your husband. You have been going through alot since. Unanticiapted death, loss, grief and the diagnosis of your son. Emotions must be high and stressful dealing with this on your own, without your husband. I am Rachele, one of the group leaders. This is a caring group of individuals and I hope that you will find some support in your grief, loss and current struggles. Welcome hugs.

Rachele, Thank you. to say it is stressful is an understatement I just recently discovered were my children where when all of this happened and it is a difficult memory to deal with. I don't know where my mind is some days I just try to walk forward and other days I am loosing ground with the steps I tried to take.

I can only imagine what a traumatic memory etched in the minds of your children and you on that day. The memory of what happended to my mother, unexpected also and seeing her when she was intubated and on life support was a sight my mind would remember for a long long time. I would even hear the beeping of the monitor, until she took her last breath over and over in my mind. Those memories are hard to shake and I feel for your children, so young and how you must try to go on somehow. I do relate to days you feel your going forward and other days feeling going backward. I have felt that too. I wonder if you thought of some counseling to help you through. Many of us here have done so. It hard to do it alone. Nonthing prepares you for when a person dies, especially unexpectedly. No that we are with you as you go through this.

Im so sorry for your loss of your husband kc136k...And what your children went through.. Have you tried to talk to a counselor or therapist? Sometimes we have to do that..Feel free to post anytime and you will find understanding and comfort here...(HUGS)