Bereavement Support Group

Is it all in my head or could I possibly be getting messages from my deceased ex husband? Am I just traumatized and grieving and seeing what I wish to see?

Then why does every little thing that happens seem to be so specific and only something he and I would know about.

Is anyone else going through this or felt this way?

Am I alone here? Should I leave and join a different forum about this or what?

Please let me know something, Anybody? I used to be ashamed to ask things like this but not anymore.

I need to know I'm not losing it. I'm not really understanding if there's more to the otherside than we've been taught.

(((HUGS)))

~JackieBlue~

I do believe we get messages and signs from our loved ones. I know I heard my mom talk to me when she first passed. I believe it is our loved ones way of bringing comfort to us. I am sorry for yur loss. It is hard to lose a spouse. Know we care and are here for you. Dont leave this group. You are in the right group. Things will get easier for you. It takes time. There is no time limit on grief. Here is a big hug to help comfort you. hugs

Lori

singingangel-Thank you for sharing that with me, I thought I was losing it or something. I didn't know if anyone else was brave enough to come out and share too. I'm so glad that you did. I'm sorry about your mother. I know I'll have to go through losing my parents one day and it's going to be hard for me. My father just recently lost his brother and I never talked to my dad about how he felt because he's very private, but I just had to ask him if he had similar experiences, it was strange I thought I wouldn't get an email response from him but I did, and I cried with relief. He told me sometimes he catches a glimpse of a shadow just in the corner of his eye and he thinks it's his brother, my Uncle John. I feel closer to my dad and now know he's not a skeptic, I mean we don't sit around and plan on talking to the dead anytime in the near future but it was nice to know my dad doesn't think of my as being crazy. hugs back to you Lori.

I will share something else with you. My inlaws passed away back in 2000 and 2001. I didnt hear from them until we went to buy a new house. I know this sounds strange but as soon as we went in the house to check it out, I heard his dad say to buy this house. I found out later that my children and hubby felt the same way. They told me that he wanted them to get this house. Needless to say we bought the house. We have lived here now for 5 years.

I am sorry for the loss of your uncle. I am glad your dad was able to help you.

Biggest hugs

Lori

How interesting that you posted this. I was going to put this on the borard this week about sharing signs of our loved ones. I have received what I believe are signs from my mom. I have had specific songs played for me. One song, had my mom's name in it. Other songs were of her favorite music artist. I have had some signs, as objects related to my mom, odd yet specific objects. There have been people that have come into my life at a moment when I needed someone. I have also had dreams, mostly in the first 6 months after she died. I know what you are saying about whether us grieving and wishes for their prescence but I do believe some of the signs I got were pretty amazing. I still get them but less frequently than when mom first died. I am sorry for the loss of your uncle. Hope you continue to get signs. Anyone else have signs of their loved one from beyond?

I still have dreams with my mother in them...I had one where she was wearing her favorite pantsuit she always wore and she walking in a bright light and i could swear I felt her touch my hand and smile...It felt so real! And then she walked right on in the light...A couple of weeks ago I went to her grave and put some flowers there and I felt a gentle breeze just where I was standing! I think those are signs and the dreams are telling me she is alright and wanting me to be happy!

I don't think any of this sounds strange, I'm the one who thought I was losing it remember I'm glad to know I'm not alone in this and that you all have come forward and shared your experiences with me.

I almost thought I should leave and go to another group because I didn't want to spook anyone or make anyone feel uncomfortable. I have a very open mind and nothing sounds strange to me.

I've been hyper sensitive since I was a kid, I mean I've noticed things in the past and shrugged it off as coincidence because that's what everyone said it was,

BUT I've never picked up on things THIS noiceable before so I had to say something and reach out finally.

Hello I am thankful that you have opened up this venue to discuss signs sent from our loved ones. I have just lost my sister two weeks ago and am struggling desperately. I find i am waiting for her to come to me and tell me or show me that she is at rest and no longer suffering. I have lost my Father two years ago and i did receive signs very often from him. The most memorable was about 3 weeks after he passed. My son and I were arguing he was 18 and stubborn (if you have a teen you know what i mean) he was not listening to what i was saying and he was yelling at me. We were alone in the house and it was a hot summer day. We had a big fan plugged into the wall next to where we were. Neither he nor i were near the cord. Well the cord came flying out of the wall and landed right on his foot. He and I looked at each other and were speechless. We knew immediately it was his Grampa and I said to him, "that is your Grampa telling you to listen to your mother". We had later asked everyone if anything like that were possible or any explanation as to why the plug would yank itself out of the wall and we still haven't. My brother came to me also when he passed I was looking every where for a sewing needle and I said Joe if your there help me find the darn thing. I was walking toward the living room and i looked down as i was taking my next step and right there where my foot would of landed was a sewing needle pointing up at me. Not sure why i even looked down but happy i did. xx There have been many signs for me. I too am super sensitive to this sort of thing. My sister however has left me with a dream that i still find hard to repeat. I can just say at this time I am not sure she is resting and i dont know why the dream i had was a it was. Nothing i ever expected. I am still waiting but i will share this dream with others to help me to better understand it. She was in it, she did come to me and hug me and told me it was ok, but the things happening all around it left me feeling very uncomfortable.

Hello everyone, I still talk to my husband too. I had a very similar experience when I needed his help too. It's just one of those things that only YOU would know about. It's like as soon as I think about him or talk to him I end up hearing or seeing something relating to him. Like he's giving me little hints to show me that he's still around and hears me or feels me.

It's random, I'll catch it when a someone passes by, talking on their cell phone, I'll hear a portion of their conversation and just dismiss it if I'm not paying attention, but then when I pay attention to what I just heard, I realize it was actually the "specific" answer to a question in my head about my husband. It's not a coincidence when it's THAT specific and personal to you.

One other thing that happened was that the day I decided to hang out with my neighbor upstairs, THE NIGHT I chose to share my sad news with him, his son's friend walks up the steps headed toward my friends apartment, he's a long time friend of my neighbor's kids, but I had never talked to him before.

Anyway as he was walking up the steps where I, my daughter and my neighbor were all sitting the kid accidentally bumps into my 2 year old daughgter and apologizes. I said Oh she's fine, and I introduced myself and he said his name was Dylan, I sad excuse me? He said Dylan, as in Bob Dylan...I then thought, of all names it could have been.

See when my husband was alive, he was a Bob Dylan freak, Bob Dylan was his idol, he had Bob Dylan everything, CD's, movies, interviews on DVD with old video footage etc. We even gave our daughter the middle name name Echo because it was the name of a girl that Bob Dylan dated in the 60s.

So Dylan bumped into Echo the night I was telling my neighbor about my husband passing away. I think it's beautiful how creative these mesages are given to us.

My heart goes out to all of you.

The signs I get can come at random, just kind of get that feeling like "that's odd" "could it be mom"? It's a feeling in my gut, a knowing yet, no one else would understand, accept me because the sign is specific to my mom. I have many times, received signs when I was feeling inconsolable or that hope and faith was gone. It makes me feel good that just maybe mom's spirit is out there. I know everyone has certain beliefs, whether religious or not but I have also seen a medium and have recieved some comfort and hope of my mom's spirit. I am not recommending it, as it's not for everyone and even mediums, like John Edward tell you, seeing one is not the answer to dealing with your grief. I just felt a bit comforted by going.