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Thanks to everyone for your thoughts. Yes, the rest of the family (my sons and my sister and brother-in-law) all feel my daughter may be bi-polar or at least have some sort of mental problems. When she finally came to see my husband in the hospital he asked me if I felt she had ulterior motives. I assured him she really cared about him -- but we all felt she only came because she knew he was dying. She has terrible mood swings -- in the past she used to call on the phone and ramble on and on -- and one of her brothers made her angry because she said he hung up the phone on her. Truth of the matter was he had to go pick up his wife and told Cathy he had to go -- but she just kept saying she only wanted to talk another minute or two -- but continued rambling. John did hang up the phone. She tended to make unreasonable requestes -- calling her brother at 7:00 PM when he had just gotten home from work and wanted him to take her to a Comedy show she wanted to attend. He had just gotten home from work -- had not even had dinner. At it turned out a girl friend wass planning to go with her -- but cancelled at the last minute. Cathy's husband didn't want to go -- so she called her brother -- and when he told her he had just gotten off work, and was tired, and really didn't feel up to going, she got quite angry and slammed the phone down. After that she never spoke to him again until she saw him at the Hospital when my husband was sick -- and then she was hardly civil. We all feel she has some problems -- but not sure just what is wrong. I will always love ber -- she is myt daughter -- but I find it difficult to like her after the way she had treated me and the rest of the family. I pray for her but I don't feel she has the right to control my life. I am 77 years old -- and I do believe I am capable of making my own decisions -- and both sons tell me they are proud of the way I have taken over managing the finances -- my husband always took care of paying all the bills -- and did so with Quicken, on the Intgernet. I contacted everyone and now have all bills mailed directly to my home -- as I find that is easier for me that way. I got an expansion folder, and put all important papers in it -- and when bills come in marka them when they are due, and always pay them early. I do think in that respect I am doing well and have wset up a budget so I know just what I have to pay and when. This was new to me, as my husband always took care of that, but thus far I feel I am doing well. Thanks again for all the replies. It helps to hear from others. |
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