Bereavement Support Group

We miss them daily. There now is an empty spot inside where my mom embedded so dear to my heart. I am left with just her memory. It's hard to do the daily things, the simple things that remind me of her. Took my son to the toy store tonight. It reminded me of all the times my mom took me and my sister to the the toy store and how much she enjoyed it. Even my grandmother was there before she passed at age 62. It was so much fun then. So many memories and no one to reminisce too. My mother would be that person. Sometimes feels my childhood is lost without her. What makes you remember?

Everytime I sing or see my piano I remember all the music we did together. We went to musicals. We sang duets at many churches. We had reputation of being good singers. She taught me how to play piano. She loved going to my daughters dance recitals. She was the reason I loved music so much.

I remember all the vacations and we went to plays at the theater sometimes...All the time she would hug me and tell me she loved me,all the laughs and jokes we would share....All the restaurants we ate at,and the precious phone calls....And just having that daughter and mother time.....

Post edited by: southern10, at: 05/31/2008 12:12

It's that mother daughter time that I miss the most too. I so miss hearing the sound of my mom's laugh and her smiling face. I havn't had a dream of her in a while. For it is there that I see her smiling and laughing. Hope she comes soon to honor me with her prescence again.

I used to enjoy playing games and cards with her. We used to do puzzles. We would set up a card table and put a puzzle on it. I have a lot of good memories. Ive been realizing more and more how much I am like my mom. I have felt like she is trying to talk to me.

I had to think about this one for a long time because my memories of especially my mom are very few.And then today it it me there is one thing that makes me think of her immediately the smell brings comfort to me without even realizing it anymore. I use it everyday but sometimes the reaction isn't as strong and others it makes me want to weep.

Jergens Lotion.

Can you believe such a silly thing can make me react that way. Today was a day that it just hit me strong. sometimes it brings happy memories of sitting with my mom and being allowed to use her hand lotion. other times it reminds me of when she was so sick and us kids would take turns rubbing her back or feet always with her lotion. Jergens

I think that's pretty cool that you have both sad and good memories with the lotion and your mom.

Sometimes you don't realize the things you miss until it hits you. Like one day I was listening to the radio and heard a song 'Its not unusual' by Tom Jones - my mom loved Tom Jones and watched the show all the time. I had this sudden memory of her when she was young and healthy and we used to watch with her. And then I had this feeling of overwhelming grief. It just took me completely by surprise it was so intense.

Lately it has been smaller things, and the grief is not as intense. Just a sadness. Like doing my flower beds and thinking how much my mom loved gardening. In a lot of ways now I think of my flower beds as a tribute to her, since I am far away from her gravesite and can't visit it.

Or watching a TV show. Even though my mom lived in a different province and we were physically seperated, we used to laugh that when we finally sat down at night we ended up watching the same TV shows.

Everywhere i go out i have lived here most of life and this city is small ..no matter where i drive i think about them it makes smile and cry at the sametime .it's hard sometimes to do anything no matter where i go it's a memeory of them ..I feel sometimes i want to runaway from here .But, I know i will always have the memorys in my head just somedays it's hard to be here but there are alot of days i see a resturant or store it brings back memeorys of them and i can smile and laugh and think of all the funny things are seeing their smiles on their face .

Seeing certain sites and walking through old time gift shops reminded me of my mom on vacation. It brought me to tears at times. Still seems hard to believe mom is gone. I think it's still that shock factor involved when a death is unexpected. I think it takes that much longer to grieve.