Hello Everyone. I'm new here

Nice to meet you. Thank you for replying. It's nice to know that I'm not alone with all of this. I truly hope you're right. I want it to get better very soon. I don't think I'll ever do anything as hard as this for the rest of my life.

I think all parents go through the grieving process when they find that their child is diagnosed with something they never considered for their child.

The other difficult thing that we parents seem to go through is what I will call episodic mourning when our child(ren) slow or almost stop in their progression. We want so much for our children and yet, we do not know what their potential is.

There is nothing that says that your daughter won't be going prom dress shopping. Maybe you and she will talk about boys.

None of us know the future, for our children, with or without ASD, MR or anything else.

I hope that I have made sense tonight. It has been a long hard day with my boys. They were "out-of-sorts" all day long and I have had a Migraine for the past 2 days.

If I don't make any sense to you, wait until Shell logs on and welcomes you. She will do a great job of making sense, especially because she is an Aspie and so, can understand things from the Spectrum perspective.

I mamaged to get through life ,yes it was hard but we do it because we have to we do find our place in the world eventually,she will go to the prom maybe not in the way you did but she will go (and it will not be the end of he world if she doesn't)you wll go shopping and you can choose clothes you an get your hair done ,nails and toes etc it will just be unique rther than normal.

I am married for 16 years 6 chldren and am writing a book,what I am trying to say is she will cope and get through life even if it seems hard at the moment oppetunaties are boundless because she has you to show her the way and that can not be all bad.

You have far more than ANY normal parent,they will never have what you havein your daughter her qualaties will come and she will find self

take one day a time

shell

Post edited by: spectrummum, at: 05/11/2008 02:25

Thank you for all your support!

I would love for her to blossom well and somehow have a life that is normal for her not the society normal I just can't seem to see the light at the end of that tunnel yet.

I appreciate all your words; they are very calming for me. I'm just really hoping right now that I'll be able to pull myself out of this. I have so much fear of what's to come with her.

It is a very difficult process to go through. Try not to look too far into the future. There is no way of knowing who or what your child is going to be. Hang in there, we are here for you!

I would love for her to blossom well and somehow have a life that is normal for her not the society normal I just can't seem to see the light at the end of that tunnel yet.

She just may. You never know. She knows nothing different than what she is/feels and to her, that i normal.

Here's wishing you a lovely Mother's Day!

And basically we are alone dispite having online groups,family,friends ulltamatley it is us in the end and it is hard.

we help each other,we gather strength and knowledge from each other and we learn from each other eventually we can over come anything,why,because we are the only ones who can.

welcome to the autistic spectrum ,sit back and enjoy the ride lol

shellxxx