Older boy with Autism

I am a new member and after reading alot of the members responses, I feel somewhat alone with my situation. I know that I am not, but I am an older mom with an older son (25, high functioning autistic boy). We have experienced many, many emotions with raising our son, but the biggest one that still mixes me up, is when I see what my son wants from the social world and I have no idea how to give it to him, Ex: friends...He will meet someone, but it is hard for them to stay friends with him, he is very different from the so-called average kids, so they see him as different and they move on. He doesn't want to be with the disabled groups that we have put him into. He says he is not like that. We have moved to a new home 3 years now and I haven't interacted well here either. When we first moved we joined a lot of Regional Center groups, but none of them he wanted to stay with. Right now, just a lonely time in my life. Hope to hear from you....

I have two adult boys who are ASD. My older boy is HFA and is 26. My younger boy has mild Asperger's and is 20. My younger boy is more sociable than his brother. My older boy has only a couple of friends and has never dated. But, he is happy that way.

Is your boy interested in computers? He may be able to make some friends on line, or find other people in your community who are interested in the same things he is.

My son is a computer programmer who has always hung out with other boys who loved computers. He is currently renting a house with two Asperger's brothers--they all work together, doing the same job. It is obvious that they are "odd ducks" to the rest of the world, but they don't care. They are comfortable and happy in their own company.

I hope this helps a little.

Nancy

Post edited by: spectrummum, at: 06/10/2008 03:05

Post edited by: MotherofBoys, at: 06/26/2008 06:19

For some reason I have not seen this post until today, when tensions rose. Forgive me for not being on the ball lately as my children have been ill and life has been beyond hectic.

Allow me, as co-leader of this group, to apologize for any hurt feelings on either side of this discussion. As I did not see the original post, I cannot talk about whatever link was placed in your post ngonz. For that reason I will talk about things in generic form.

Recently this group has had a few members, who joined the group to advertise their "wares". Those people both Spectrummum and I have posted warnings to about such things.

In addition, there have been some people who have "cut-and-paste" whole articles that they found out on the web. This is illegal per the copyright laws. It is okay to write a little synopsis, of what you read, and include the link for others to click on and go and read. Those, who have copied and pasted have been warned and asked to edit their posts. If they do not, we go in and edit it for them. The only reason that this must be done is because, if left alone, these posts could get Roy in trouble and shut down this site.

As for opinions on this site, they are both welcome and needed as are information on theories, therapy and anything else that one finds out there.

Please remember, everyone, that Spectrummum is an Aspie and as such, when she voices her opinions they are blunt and raw (and very opinionated too ).

Again, I do not know what the original post, above, stated and as such I am neither sticking up for the poster or for Spectrummum. I just want to remind/make y'all aware that Spectrummum represents the ASD side of the leadership, in this group, and I represent the NT Normal side.

If you ever have any questions, as to where either one of us is coming from, we are always available via PM or here in the forum.

I hope this helps to sooth the hurt feelings.

I am currently on my way out the door, to work, and I want to preserve part of what I wrote and put it in a new thread under a different topic.

Thank you for your patience and understanding.