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found out that my husband was also autistic as a child.

his mother hid from me. i found out through my husbands sister. how do you deal with a nana who won't even admit her own son has this.

Thanks

i am shell mum of 6

one with autism one with aspergers one with traits one with lbd

ignorance is bliss

some people just can not accept that the perfect child they dreamed of did not come after all.

and probably thought that somewhere in there the real normal child was going to bloom.

she is getting on in her years and if she has not accepted yet she never will your just going to have to grind your teeth and squeeze a smile

but at least now you know

i was diagnosed with as only a couple of years ago so i believe my mother was the same way

as long as you know who you all are that is all that matters in the end

love yourself hubby and son you are all very special no matter what anybody else thinks.

love shell

Other than that, when I come across people like that I smile, thank them for their input and go on with my day. Unless they are trying to force something on you their opinion of it really doesn't matter much.

I have autism and this was not discovered until I was an adult, however as a child I was the 'odd' one, quirky, too shy, too sensitive to noise and touch and taste, when I was around only the people who were very safe to me, I talked and talked and talked and did not care if anyone was interested in what I had to say or not, super dooper smart though refusing to do work in the way it was supposed to be done at school.

Clearly I have always been autistic...BUT...twenty-thirty years ago (and more recently even) little was known about ASD and it was usually only the profoundly affected individuals that ended up having a diagnosis formalised. Also there was not the support that there is today, certainly in the seventies it was even more disappointing (not that I am disappointed in me for being autistic or my son...nor should we be) socially to have a child with special needs.

Please forgive these people who were from a different world to what we are living in today...just as we do not wish people to judge us without walking in our shoes, we ought not judge them, our parents faced hurdles that are not less or more than today, just very different. They did their best and they still are...in the way they know how.

Christine

Just a thought of a rambling mom,

have a great day everyone,

Jessica