freckles0418
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My Dad was the same way with my mom, he would act like there was no problem. Instead of being understanding he would get aggravated and almost acted like autism didn't even exist. I think it's a MEN thing. My boyfriend was the same way for a long time. Some of the other Dads from my brother's school act the same way. I think it is hard for a man to admit that he has a child who has special needs or any kind of developmental/mental/medical problems. Not that it is particularly easy for anyone to deal with it, but I think it's a common thing in men. (My boyfriend is just getting out of this phase, now I just have to wait for my other brother to get out of it). It's been 5 years and my dad now overcompensates for Bret's autism by giving in to EVERYTHING. So we basically went from one end of dealing with it to the other. Give it time. Shell was right, he will find his own way of 'grieving' and eventually move on, but you can't make him. And you can always vent on here, we're all supportive and understanding. Stay strong! |
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