Autism Support Group

hi guys okay, i think i am finally at the end of the grieving process

i have gone through at least four of the stages

stage 1

shock and denial

stage 2

pain and guilt and blame

stage 3

anger and bargaining

stage 4

depression, isolation and reflection

stage 5

acceptance

still tithering between stages 4 and 5

was just wondering how i could speed up the process! it gets a bit annoying as i do want to move on

Well first off I think it's pretty awesome that you are aware you are grieving and the process that alone means your healing. I hope you can see there really isnt anything to mourn anymore you have a child with autism its a pretty special thing. Start looking at not as a loss but a gift.

I dont want to sound like finding out your child autism is easy because it isnt so I hope I didnt sound as if I was discrediting that Hang n there ~Deja~

You may go through stages 4 and 5 for a long time. After all we want the best for our kids and this is something that can't be changed. This is who they are. Just keep in mind that with those 2 stages there's also stage 6= awe, surprises, inspiration, hope, humor,.. I think you get it.

Everyone grieves differently. There is no right or wrong way to do it. Don't push yourself to go through it too fsst. My son was 13 when he got his diagnosis and will be turning 16 tomorrow. You do grieve the goals and dreams you had before. We were grieving this as well as grieving the death of my mom, nine months later my dad, and then six months later my father in law. Puberty set it all off and in high gear along with ailing parents. It has been a difficult process to go through. I still have my moments. AS hbsmith mentioned I am having the stage 6 stuff now.

I hope this helps.