my three year old son was diagnosed last year but i am having problems with him obeying what i tell him to do.

For example, we went to a film show which was produced by other older children that attend his nursery, getting there was fine but when we went to sit down he started shouting and making a lot of noise to the extent we had to leave. He behaves like this all the time

Also on the bus we wont sit still and likes to move about and kick and look at everything and not sit still, this has stopped me from taking him to far places as i cant control him

any suggestions pls, he will be four soon

you are welcome to go have a look through them.

Dicaplining an autistic child is not the same has with a normal child many factors have to taken into consideration

1)does the child know that what he is doing is inappropriate

2) does he understand that he upseting people by his actions

3) would he understand naughty or understand discapline at three.I dont think so

4)is dicsapline the way to go or would diversion work eg taking a book,toy,gameboy etc.

Discapline is not always the right thing to do.

shell

I agree with Spectrummum that discipline is not always the right thing to do. I have three on the spectrum and one of them is low-moderate functioning. He does not understand things like a 3 1/2 year old usually does. He has cognitive difficulties and his ability to express himself is not very good. All of this, plus overstimulation, leads to frequent outbursts.

Disciplining him only makes him more upset. Instead, we try to understand what he is going through, we try to understand why this is happening and then we work on calming/soothing him. Sometimes it is just a matter of getting down at his level and talking with him in a calm and soft voice. Sometimes I have "plopped" right down on the floor, scooped him up into my lap and given him a big hug, rocked him and spoke very softly to him.

I know that outsiders look at our children and think that they are "monsters" and "out-of-control" therefore they need discipline. The truth of the matter, our children do not function in this world the way "normal" children do so, therefore, they cannot be treated like "normal" children are treated.