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I am so anxious around people, especially when I'm not on Zoloft.. Zoloft has helped a lot with many things.. But I still don't feel comfortable around people sometimes.. I've just been lied to and taken advantage of and abandoned so many times by so many people, I just clump people altogether sometimes and think they are all bad.. I know they aren't.. There are probably more good people than bad but the bad ones leave such a powerful impression. How do get over this and trust people??
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Hello Jessica It is nice to have you aboard the anxiety group. It is true that there are people who would do nasty things, and say nasty things to all of us. But you cannot judge everyone on the basis of those who are not so nice. There are far , far more people who are nice, and Loving. With people - trust - has to be earned. Raoul Post edited by: ray2135, at: 08/05/2009 05:28 PM |
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bindiboo Posts: 1271
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Hi jessica....Trust is a thing that needs to be earned..I think anyway....It sounds like you have become social anxiety.......How bad do things get when you are around others???? Do you full on panic or can you cope????? Or do you need to run away & hide.....I went through this stage just a little while ago & was anxious even around my own mother....I didn't want any-one to come near me except my hubby......But I have gotton better now....... I am not a medical doctor.....My opinion is purely that....I try & give the best advice to help others from my own experiences.......
" We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same."
I don’t know what the key to success is, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.
http://www.facebook.com/bindiboo
Sometimes we need to stop analyzing the past,stop planning the future,stop figuring out how we feel,stop deciding what we want,and just see what happens.
Forget the past, it has already happened, worry not about the future, it has yet to come. Concentrate on today, and make every moment count. |
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Jessica and Bindiboo - You guys are making me so sad. To think that you have been so badly treated by people that you feel so much sadness and anger and distrust. I am sad. I am feeling so sad I am getting the computer all wet. <<<I am not being sarcastic - I am sincere>>> I wish I could do something to take all of your pain away. But I can not - the only thing I can do is hold out my arm - and offer my friendship and Love. Oh and Bindiboo - I am off of the short timers list again. So I may be around for a while. Luv, Raoul |
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BrandiJo Posts: 1584
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i totally understand you Jessica. I have that same issue. When i know i am going to be around alot of people.. or even a group of people, i automaticaly take a Xanax. I HAVE TO. OR i will totally freak out! I can not help you, as i have the same issue. But i am hear for you if you ever need to vent or talk about ur issues. If you want to share trust stories, PM me. listening to others helps me feel like i am not alone! ~Brandi Jo~
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please remember.. i am NOT a doctor. my advice is strickly ONLY my oppinion. thanks! |
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Things used to be much worse than they are now.. Before Zoloft I was afraid to talk to new people (people I don't know) Even people at work, at times, I just didn't know how to interact with people.. I find it hard to relate to them because for the longest time, I didn't talk to many people. I moved a lot when I was young so I never had the opportunity to make life long or even long term friends.. I was always having to try to make new friendships and after a while, it just felt pointless.. So now that I actually do want to know people and everything, I don't know how to. I just feel isolated.. Different. |
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bindiboo Posts: 1271
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Just need to stop putting pressure on yourself.....you sound to me like a gr8 girl & friendship take a while to build up.....Make sure your body language is turning people off you....Just be friendly to people & eventually you will find others that you have things in common with......I have a gr8 friend now we just used to be workmates but we are the bestest friends but it has been a long time to build up to that.....You will get there .....Keep smiling  Post edited by: bindiboo, at: 08/06/2009 06:21 PM Post edited by: bindiboo, at: 08/06/2009 06:22 PM I am not a medical doctor.....My opinion is purely that....I try & give the best advice to help others from my own experiences.......
" We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same."
I don’t know what the key to success is, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.
http://www.facebook.com/bindiboo
Sometimes we need to stop analyzing the past,stop planning the future,stop figuring out how we feel,stop deciding what we want,and just see what happens.
Forget the past, it has already happened, worry not about the future, it has yet to come. Concentrate on today, and make every moment count. |
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dreamsofinsomnia Posts: 1719
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trust is a hard one people must earn it i have learned throughout my life that trust issues may never go away i don't tend to trust anyone even still long after the injury has taken place distrust is a survival instict there are also varying degrees of trust Please, please forgive me,
But I won't be home again.
Maybe someday you'll look up,
And, barely conscious, you'll say to no one:
"Isn't something missing?"
You won't cry for my absence, I know -
You forgot me long ago.
Am I that unimportant...?
Am I so insignificant...?
Isn't something missing?
Isn't someone missing me?
Even though I'm the sacrifice,
You won't try for me, not now.
Though I'd die to know you love me,
I'm all alone.
Isn't someone missing me?
Please, please forgive me,
But I won't be home again.
I know what you do to yourself,
I breathe deep and cry out:
"Isn't something missing?
Isn't someone missing me?"
Even though I'm the sacrifice,
You won't try for me, not now.
Though I'd die to know you love me,
I'm all alone.
Isn't someone missing me?
And if I bleed, I'll bleed,
Knowing you don't care.
And if I sleep just to dream of you
And wake without you there,
Isn't something missing?
Isn't something...
Even though I'm the sacrifice,
You won't try for me, not now.
Though I'd die to know you love me,
I'm all alone.
Isn't something missing?
Isn't someone missing me?
contact me on yahoo messenger under jennyleuchtman |
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Chanda Posts: 2137
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This is a tough one! It is really hard to trust ppl these days. I have a hard time with this. So, I try to trust someone until they hurt me or do me wrong, which is hard to go thru, but how else are we gong to live... I am not a Doctor, just a person who experiences panic and anxiety and Im here to try to help people and also learn from them also. ;)
Check out my blog about panic and anxiety, I try to write in it daily, This site has helped me. And the Programs on the top, sides, and bottom! NO MORE ANXIETY & PANIC!!
http://paniccure123.blogspot.com
If you ever need me & im not on here, try my yahoo IM- Babygirlluv1978, my myspace is or also www.myspace.com/BabyGirlLuv1978 and facebook under Chanda Miller, I play pogo alot at pogo.com, my name is cdm62108
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*Cast all you anxiety on (God), because he cares for you. I Peter 5:7
*I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.- Phil 4:13
*So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.- Isaiah 41:10
*For I the Lord thy God will hold thy right hand, saying unto thee, Fear not; I will help thee. - Isaiah 41:13
*"Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight." -Proverbs 3:5-6
*Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.- Psalm 23:4
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mem604
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Yeah.. I know what you mean. |
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