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05/03/2012 12:39 AM

Is this social anxiety?

Zetsubou
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I've already been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder (along with depresseion and ADHD), but I was wondering if my specific case counted as social anxiety, or something else.

To explain, the main thing I get anxious about is other people - what they think of me, mainly. I'm not actually afraid of interacting with people at all, but when I say or do something that I think might cause them to dislike me, I obsess over it for days after. I over-analyse every little detail of conversations with anyone who I don't know very well, and even though I am awae of this, am unable to stop myself feeling like I have seemed weird or creepy, desperate, pitiful, crazy, or cruel.

I'm currently taking Zoloft, Melatonin to sleep, and seeing a psychologist, a psychiatrist, and an ADHD specialist, for between 1 and 18 months each, but my problems, while a little bit better, are more or less unchanged so far.

So: 1) Is this social anxiety or something else?

2) Does anyone have any suggestions for trying to alliviate these feelings?

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05/03/2012 04:45 AM
Raoul
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Hi

Me too...

I go over things - over and over again.

Even when they are not related to people I do it.

My worst is doctors - they make me very unhappy all the time.

It is great to have you aboard.

Welcome, Raoul


05/03/2012 05:47 AM
Zetsubou
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Nice to hear that I'm not the only one (although not so nice that other people also need to suffer it)

Personally, sometimes I feel so insecure that it's hard for me to buy something in a shop, or borrow books from a library, because I don't want the person at the counter thinking X about me because I bought/borrowed Y.

At any rate, I should have done some research - it seems like these fears aren't particularly typical of social anxiety, so I suppose they're just a part of anxiety disorders in general.


05/03/2012 08:56 AM
zaylia
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thank you for posting this. i do this a lot too, have since i was 11. i htink part is social anxiety and part is self-esteem, at least for me. and that i dont ever want to make anyone uncomfortable as i know it sucks. so i try to prevent making others anxious, making me anxious haha

05/05/2012 08:13 AM
Zetsubou
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11? Do you just mean around that time or did something specific happen to you?

The reason I ask is that I myself had a specific experience that triggered my anxiety disorder (or at least brought it to light for the first time).

Heh. Not wanting to make people feel unconfortable is a far more altruistic reason to be shy than my fear of what others will think of me. I concede the moral high ground to you!


05/05/2012 10:58 AM
zaylia
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well i was always diferent and called a freak and such. but that didnt affect my school too badly until i had noticed it was just me in that small town school... and that my friends were only friends because we knew each other since before kindergarten.. i just was able to see the truth in things more. and school got harder because i learned very little in french immersion because of my adhd. so i knew french the least amount of anyone.. and when i was 11 i went into 7th grade, with more english coarses. and that was too much. so i couldnt do school, i couldnt socialize anymore since my friends were loising their goofy ways and maturing far quicker. they noticed i didnt communicate like the average kid(i have aspergers) so i dunno.. was just very confused to sum it up..

thats really too bad you were triggered into your disorder. if you ever need to talk about it mdj is a safe place. you can PM me too. Smile

haha thank you. i do worry what they think of me too for sure though. and i have had problems caring too much about others. where i made it my problem, so not quite the best. but i tend to over think things too much. like on the news if i see a deer escape from the ice. i think oh no poor other deer who dont. because if that one was seen, it must happen more.. just things like that. but its nice because i can know thoughts and feelings ive had, someone else must too. and in hard times that can be comforting. of coarse nicer to speak with someone who relates!

Post edited by: zaylia, at: 05/05/2012 11:01 AM


05/05/2012 06:37 PM
Zetsubou
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Well, to clarify, the experience that started (or perhaps revealed) my anxiety disorder wasn't one that the vast majority of people would have found traumatic at all. It was the way I tried to deal with it that made it what it was.

I'll probably talk about it eventually, but right now I'd rather leave it.

Damn it, I'm being cryptic again. It's a bad habit of mine.

Forgive me for asking, but what exactly is french immersion? Your profile says you're from Canada, so does this mean that half of your classes were spoken in French? I'm from Australia, so I know absolutely nothing about Canada, other than that Americans treat it like we treat New Zealand (i.e. as a joke).


05/06/2012 06:45 AM
joentysmom
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I to worry way too much what others think and agree with Zaylia that mine also comes with self esteem issues. There really isnt a reason for these issues, but cannot stop them. Overanalyzing is definitely a downfall of mine. I would rather be around people that I know really well and tend to avoid going to parties/clubs. This all stems from terrible anxiety or SAD. Its nice to know I am not alone in this, but what do we do to fix it? I know there is medication/therapy and such, but how can this be managed without all that?

05/06/2012 06:50 AM
damselndistress
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Wow I am American and have always gotten the impression that Canada is awesome.

Everybody talks about leaving the United States and moving to Canada.Smile


05/06/2012 07:17 AM
zaylia
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Zetsubou, that makes sense that the way you handled something could be traumatic. but as im sure you know, even if others wouldnt htink it to be traumatic, doesnt mean it wouldnt be for yo or some others. things are different for eveyone. i tend to compare myself quickly and i do practice not doing it. because really, minimizing it doesnt do anything. and it isnt fair to ourselves. talking when were ready is part of healing more effectively too so definietly speak about it when you have an urge or whatever

oh nothing to forgive no worries. being in french immersion, i only had english class in english haha. home room, library books, field trips etc were french too.

joentysmom, it can be "fixed" i truly believe. mine is far better this year that it ever used to be. mostly worse when in a bad mood. some times im just thinking it, i dont get anxious from it. just being aware of it, is the biggest thing to help it. because then while youre doing it you can talk to yourself about it. give pep talks, i guess theyd be like affirmations. speaking out loud affirmations is much more effective too

thank you damsel! it is a wonderful place to live, i dont want to move away from it. just travel. i really want to go to Australia and New Zealand actually haha

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