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Anxiety ForumsGeneral & SupportAn Epiphany about "being perfect" and my humanity
09/13/2011 11:56 AM
AsianGoddess

I am so excited! I hit a break-through moment! I finally realized and connected with the fact of life that I am human, I have imperfections, I have weaknesses and I have limitations. Wow! The joy of accepting truth and the freedom and relief is beyond my comprehension. It is a wonderful feeling and almost a gift to myself.

I don't have to live under the expectation of "some holy being" that people put on a pedestal. And when they find out I'm not perfect, it dashes their dreams and ruins their dispositions/faith. I don't have that power anyway because nobody has that power. Nobody is perfect!

I don't have to think that I have to chase "the impossible dream" and the "unrealistic expectation" of myself and others to strive to "be perfect." There is no such thing! Nobody can do it! i don't have to punish myself anymore for not "measuring up" because there is nothing to measure up to. Perfection doesn't exist in this world. It is a mirage, and I am no longer going to eat sand in the desert when I can walk to a real body of water and drink real water!

I don't have to live under the rules and regulations of "being perfect." There are no rules and regulations, it is just a smoke-screen to hide someone else's insecurities and imperfections. When they point out how "imperfect I am", I don't see their own imperfections! Imperfection is a myth!

I am free! The truth has set me free to love myself unconditionally, to look at myself with understanding and kindness. I am suppose to have imperfections, limitations and weaknesses because I am a human being. I am suppose to ask help and support from others. I am suppose to work on my imperfections, limitations and weaknesses and become a better/stronger person because I overcome them in my life. I am suppose to struggle! In struggling, I learn the lessons I need to learn and I learn to appreciate my strenths, talents and abilities. I can rejoice in my humanity because I'm not all bad, I'm not all weakness, limitations and imperfections. I'm also strong and good with talents and abilities unique to being me! Perfection is a lie that tells me I'm not good enough. Imperfection shows me the truth in myself and the possibility of my greatness!

I am free to accept the love, encouragement and support from other people! That is how to live! That is healthy for me. I don't have to carry the burden of "being perfect" because I'm suppose to welcome, appreciate and soak up the love of others. That is what connects me to other people. That is what I am created for. To love and be loved!

I am not strong because I am perfect (especially since perfection does not exist!) but I'm weak when I don't accept the help of others. I can no longer live blindly thinking and pursuing a fantasy, a myth, a lie. I can be authentic and real with myself and others. I find my strength when I am surrounded by the love, comfort and support of people who love and care for me.

I am free to strive to work on my issues because everybody has issues and everybody needs to work on them. That's how we were created. We are meant to work towards a goal to better ourselves and make our lives richer and meaningful. If we don't have any problems, we can't really be happy, at peace with ourselves and content. We cannot truly feel these emotions. Without the sadness of failure, there can never be the truimph and joy of success. Without problems, there can be no solution! I am free to be me and love being me!

I am not better than anyone but neither I am worse off than anybody else. We're are all in this life together and we can truly help each other grow and develop into better people.

What a wonderful epiphany! Hope it helps someone else and hope someone reaches this epiphany also.

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09/13/2011 12:08 PM  Top
Catfishes24
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Beautiful! Thanks for sharing!
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