Anger Chart

This has helped me tremendously! Its called the Anger Chart. It is designed for the person who has anger issues. You design it with your family or significant other (meaning they should have a little input).

Take a piece of paper and label is 0 through 10. O being absence of anger and 10 being blind rage. Then with your family, friends, significant others, fill in 1 through 9 with your increasing anger steps. 1 could be slight annoyance, 2 could be annoyance, and so on. It may also help to put little actions next to the higher numbers. My number 6 says angry- needs to be left alone. So when I say 'I'm at a 6!' to my husband he knows not to talk to me for some time.

It really helps communication between you and family and friends who may not understand your anger. Also you can start predicting some of your triggers.

If this is confusing at all I am so sorry! Reply and I can write up a mock Anger Chart as an example!

Hope this helps someone as much as this helped me!

Sincerely, Carolyn

The anger chart does open communication. I hope it helps, its helped me and my husband greatly in the short time we have used it. Do you and your husband go to counseling? We just started, and that also opens our eyes to brand new things that aids our relationship.

If you ever need to talk if free any time. Also, my name is Carolyn as well! =)

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THanks Carolyn

Love, Carolyn

I agree that God finds his way in little ways. Maybe this means the anger chart is something that will be very beneficial to you.

I remember when my husband used to be where you are right now, emotionally. He would cry instantly every time I got mad, even a little mad. He would say 'I just want you to love me' or 'Please you can control this'. The counseling helped out soooo much.

Maybe when one of you gets mad you can say a prayer out loud to help keep you on track. This is a very popular one:

“God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change,

The Courage to change the things we can,

And the Wisdom to know the difference."

Im sure if you google 'anger management prayers' you can find one that you like best.

Message me anytime! Ill be thinking about you!

I wish my husband would cry or at least show some sign of caring. HE just works more hours and shuts me out and of course I get angry. It is a vicious cycle.

Love, Carolyn

Going to take my kids for a walk to blow off some steam

Yes we definently need a link!

We just got back from the walk. I felt like the worst mom ever. We walked to a playground about a mile from our house. It is really sunny and hot. My 7 year old daughter rode her bike. We had to walk up a really steep hill on the way home!! I have never done it before with her on her bike. I had to push the bike up some of it, while she stayed with my other 2 in the stroller. Sometimes I am so desperate to get exercise, I don't think about the details of my choices. If that makes any sense. Thanks for the support!

Love, Carolyn

On top of all of that you didn't make some lame excuse of why you couldn't do your exercises today! Good for you!!

I will write more again next chance I get.

Love, Carolyn