pixiedust430
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i have gone through this with my husband too. I was raped and he hated the guy for a long time. It took me a while but I realized that he felt vulnerable because he couldn't do anything to change it or to make me feel better. My husband often gets mad when he feels helpless and it may be that the same is true of your hhusband. Also the guy that raped me hhad lived with me before thhat hhappened and he used to abuse me often. It builds up alot of hurt in you that I am sure you have noticed is triggered by lots of things. The guy that hurt me used to where this hat and now whenn I see one like it I just fall apart. My husband used to have a hard time with this cause he didn't know how to help and hated the guy for what he sees as ruining the relationship that my husband and I have. How long ago were you abused, and did you get any counseling to help with the feelings after? You may not think you will need it but there are alot of things you need to deal with and not just cover. Your hubby might find it helpful to go to counseling together wiith you. "I don't mind living in a man's world as long as I can be a woman in it." Marilyn Monroe |
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