Anger Management Support Group

I should have written about this a few days ago, but I have been in a sort of funk lately and not posting like I should!

Thrusday I talked to my therapists about feeling angry, and wanting to make some rules or limits on my own behavior or reactions...I thought the feelings that I've been having lately were anger...I've been irratible, a little short when talking to people, in a cruddy mood I suppose...We talked about for quite awhile...They both looked at me, then at each other, back at me and said,,"Your frustrated"! Maybe I just don't know what angry is...It's not something I have alot of experiece in feeling...I isolate and don't get to that point .... Frankly, what other people do or say doesn't affect me much, I think I don't care what others do or think,,,in a way that bothers me...Before I left, one of the therapists excused herself and brought me back a small business card. On it it says

"What you think of me is NONE OF MY BUSINESS

i is how i feel about people, so what , who cares what they think, is it a barrier we put up to hide behind? who knows, it has opened me up tho. before i was a introvert and kept to myself and it is starting to come back, when i stopped drinking and went to all kinds places to change, i went to the extreme into being a extrovert, how we change like that i do not know.

Me either Iken.

I have a lot of questions about how and why interaction happens as it does.

I've got big responsibility though trying to raise 4 kids and I do not have energy for people and the games thye play.

I think it's time for me to just put the blinders on and focus on the task at hand and mind my own business.

Then maybe later I'll have time to sort it all out.

Right now I've got a job to do.

If you come up with any big answers to this one let me know.

Post edited by: damselndistress, at: 05/21/2012 11:21 AM

I have no "BIG ANSWERS" however I know that when my kids were at home, whether they were little or teens, all of my energy was spent either providing for them financially, maintaining them as in bathing, meals, laundry, school work, dicipline, and quality time spent with them showing them how much I loved them, Play time, individual time....Like you Jen , I had alot of kids and my responsibility was first to them! Anything outside of home was an extra! And not always a positive bonus either! We do the best we can! Relying on what our hearts or experience tells us is the right thing to do, sometimes we make mistakes...We're only human!

I don't know Iken, I wish I could honestly say that what people think of me doesn't matter, bu t that wouldn't be honest! I do want to be liked, I do want to be a person others respect and trust...But I don't want to slip into being a YES person to be able to say I have FRIENDS, when they are really only casual aquantances! I know I shut myself down or build walls to kep myself "safe", I'm finding that doesn't work! What I need to do is to set limits and boundries that work for me and stick to them even when it iis difficult or uncomfortable...True friends might take offense or even get mad at me on occasion, but itf they are really friends, we'll find a compromise we can both live with or they will get over it and accept me with my faults!