Anger Management Support Group

Hi Gina, welcome. I find I get easily frustrated and angry at people daily. It's gotten worse. I can't stand people who only care about themself. I too find it difficult at times to cry, so I tend to listen to sad music alot to get the tears. Most times underneath the anger is pain. I find I do need to let my frustrations out or it does build up. Rachele

Hi

I am having a hard time with some new diagnosis about my heart. I am having another test to see how big the hole in my heart is ( on thursday)Part of me is brave but I have spent many years being afraid so it comes naturally. I am not angry about it. I don't get mad at god. I do want to stay in bed all day lol.

So this condition causes you to be weak and tired..I'm sorry Gina..I'm sure this is a curable condition now. My niece was born with a whole in her heart..they put so many huge pace makers back in the sixties...but that was so long ago..no she didnt make it to just 6 years old..my sweet Terriann..

I pray they have much better technology now..I'm sure they do

I will research it and get back to you

Blessings and Be still...God is right there with you..no fear..

Hugs, Patty

Gina..This looks like a great site to read about it

Hope it helps you to know, they have come a long way now in helping..and curing..this disease...

http://www.nhlbi.nih.gov/health/health-topics/topics/holes/

Post edited by: patty777, at: 09/11/2011 09:37 PM

Hi There,

Please don't take offense at what I have to say.I can see MYSELF in

some of the group as a whole,when I was struggling to find some answers to this hellish problem.Please start INVESTING in yourself by getting books on

Self-Assertiveness,Self-Esteem,and Abuse(if appropriate). The Assertiveness is

an ABSOLUTE MUST for folks like us,and YOU WILL LOVE IT! A victim no more,of

self or others.

You will NEVER recover just by coming on here.You need NEW

INFORMATION in your own "inner-computer". You won't believe the JOY and

empowerment you feel when you manage to tell some "would be abuser", "That's

absolutely unacceptable behavior!" And you didn't NEED TO GET ANGRY! But still

kept your SELF-RESPECT.

BE OF GOOD COURAGE,

jimindigo.[b] [img] [img]

For many years I felt physically ill. So many symptoms. The led to my pushing the buttons with my mental illness. then they both took on lives of thier own. I'd get stressed then anxious then feel pain in partos of my body. I'd shut down and then think about stuff and get angry..then I'd get stressed then anxious then I'd shut down...you get the idea. my depression and my pain and my tremors/ fibromyalgia and arthiritis became almost as one.

I didn't know how to seperate them so I could start healing.

first I dealt with the pain, then sleep, then meds, then techniques to deal with anxiety/ anger/ stress.

I realized I was angry about everything but mostly that as a child I felt powerless, discounted, ugly/foolis/stupid. I carried that into my adult life. I was angry all the time. even when smiling and laughin. I think I over answered your question.

Gina. I'm sorry that you have grown into this nightmare of lumping all things together! Doctors have a way of convincing us that this is the way it should be, but in our hearts, we know they are separate issues. Yes, being physically ill can and does bring on depression, malaise, anger, but your right too, alot of our anger comes from when we were too little to defend ourselves against the abuse, weather mental or physical or both...We were taught to be the way we are, but Honey, that is NOT who we are! We must find the way to unlearn all the wrong things we were taught about ourselves, and learn who and what we were meant to be!

Oh so easy to write this to you, as I struggle daily to unravel my own messed up self! I just know, I can't do it alone, and that here I find kindness and support, if not to change today, to find strength to change when the time is right....

All we can do is try our best every day. Sometimes for me , it's just turning over in bed! LOL but it's true...Today being one of those days.

I'll be thinking about you , and keeping you in my prayers where your tests are concerned! I would say "keep a stiff upper lip!" but in truth,,, laugh when something lightens your heart, cry when you can , and grieve when you MUST!

HUGZ AND A TICKLE!

Reba

Dear jimindigo,

So much of what you posted hits home...Yes assertiveness, Self esteeme and aubse issues deepen my illness. I have read countless "self help" books, countless coping stratagies, countless experts who can put my fears behind me once and for all! Truthfully, I do believe each book I read, each coping tool I have tried have in some way , whether big or small, helped me...Truth is truth, no matter where you find it...

Thanks for your most valued opinion, one that I try to seek every day!

HUGZ,

Reba