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I joined this group more for my mum really. Not sure if this is the right place to be but my mum is a heavy drinker and I am so worried about her. She takes medication for bipolar and I'm worried about the reaction of the 2. If I'm in the wrong place, please tell me |
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carmen33
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Good morning Child, you are not in the wrong place and you are right to worry about the alcohol and the bipolar meds, they do not work well together, is she willing to get help? |
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Not really no, she can't get out of the house and I have talked to my GP about it but he says that he can't talk about her because of patient/doctor confidentiality so I can understand that. She shouts at me alot for meddling but all I want to do is help her and let her medication start to work. Glad I'm in the right place. Not sure what else to do though. I used to have a drink problem but managed to get myself off it
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Dear childwithin, welcome to the group! I am sorry that you mom is in such a bad place in her life right now. What kind of medication is she on? There are many different kinds that will interact with alcohol in a bad way. How long has she had a drinking problem? Did you grow up in it? Sorry if I ask alot of questions, I like to have more info. before I give out alot of advice.  It just helps me understand the situation better! I grew up in an alcoholic, addiction filled home. My mom drank alot and my older brothers were alcoholic, drug addicts. I myself became an addict, compulsive gambler and alcoholic. Ive been in recovery for 9 years. I am here to help in anyway I can. Take care!! Your Friend, Chris Your Friend, Chris |
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Hi Chris, thanks for the welcome. I don't mind answering questions at all. Like to build up to things. Well done on your recovery. I can't imagine how hard it was for you to live with a mum and brothers with alcohol and drug problems. Do you get support with it? I say lucky but it is only my mum who drinks. My mum takes lithium and Valium as well as a sleeping tablet when she needs it. I have seen the reactions and she gets very violent and tearful with it. I am terrified for her! I have tried talking to my GP about it and asked my psychiatrist for advice but they won't discuss her case, I completely understand though. I grew up with it yes, she has always been violent with it, very rarely does she hit me though. I know she has been drinking since I was born but not sure how far it goes back. She was abused as a child and that's where I think her problems first stem from but she has never got any help with it. My mums motto is outta sight, outta mind. She won't deal with anything. I will never judge or fault her though. I just want to help her. I have other issues with her where she still doesn't believe I was abused as a child but I don't hold that against her. |
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I am so sorry for all that you have been through. It seems as of we have quite a bit in common, unfortunately it isn't good things! Are you seeking help for yourself? That is what is very important right now. It is hard to help anyone when we have alot of our own issues to deal with. You have to remember to take care of yourself! Would she be willing to get help? It does seem as if there would be some bad reactions from her meds. and alcohol! It could be very harmful to her! Do you see the same doctors? I understand confidentiality but you are expressing a concern about medications! Are they the ones giving them to her? Who ever is giving her the medications should be warned about her alcohol abuse! I hope that you are finding the help you need here! You can PM me anytime. Chris Your Friend, Chris |
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childwithin
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Thanks Chris and yes, I am getting alot of support and help here. Talking and sharing my story is helping me a great deal. I am under a psychiatrist and she has referred me for counselling so it's a start. Yes, my mother and I have the same doctor and I have told him my concerns about her mixing her meds with alcohol. He isn't very supportive, perhaps I should get a second opinion from another doctor. I refuse to let anything bad happen to her. Whenever I broach the subject with her about getting help, she clams up and tells me to get lost. I can't really get through to her. I've tried shouting, being calm and ignoring her but then I feel bad doing that. Yes, our GP is prescribing my mother's meds but he seems the type to give her drugs and think that's going to make her right. I feel like I hit my head up against a brick wall sometimes. Do you know what I mean? Sorry to offload so much on you.
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Child: I don't know how the system works where you live, but she really needs to be seen by a psychiatrist. I believe it should be illegal for a GP to prescribe psych meds; they don't know enough about the conditions they are treating for. When my mother was alive, she was getting Prozac from her obgyn doctor. After her death, I wrote the doctor a nice, long letter, letting her know that if she had referred my mother to a psychiatrist instead of writing her ineffective scripts, she could have made my mother's last years on Earth far more bearable. My mother definitely suffered from OCD and never received any treatment for it. "Is this a blessing? Or is it a curse?
Does it get any better? Can it get any worse?
Will it go on forever? Is it over tonight?
Does it come with the darkness? Does it bring out the light?
Is it richer than diamonds? Or just a little cheaper than spit?"--Jim Steinham
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Warhorse, I am so sorry for your loss and what you've been through, hugs to you. I have made an appointment for my mother with a different doctor at our practice and he will refer her to a psychiatrist. He was very understanding about her and said that it is dangerous for her to keep drinking whilst taking strong meds. Her appointment is on Thursday and I'll go in with her. She can create all she wants but I will make sure she gets there. The doctor said that because she drinks, she isn't getting the benefit from her meds and that's making her ill again. She's quite violent at the moment but it's nothing I can't handle. I just want to help her. I can't believe that your mother didn't get the help she needed. So many doctors just shun you with a prescription and that's it. Very sad. |
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Sweetie, I understand what your going through. I went through heavy drinking for the last three years of my life due to traumatic events that took place in my life and went to rehab. Is that an option for her (rehab inpatient)? She is dual diagnosed?? with alcoholism and bi-polar? maybe... I'm just guessing. The biggest thing to worry about is the mixture. If she is mixing with Seroquel which I'm also guessing she takes to treat bi-polar, it can triple the effect it has on her brain and her organs...especially her liver and pancreas. Please get her some blood tests to rule out cirros. Does she drink socially or by herself? Maybe try and get her to a therapist to sort everything out. Professional help is out there...just call her health care provider if possible or ask her primary care doctor. It took me a long time to agree to it; but thankfully I caught it before I hurt myself healthwise. Maybe other family members can talk to her too. If you want to talk, I'm here and I've been through it. Hang in there dear, ange35 Ange 35 |
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