Alcoholism Support Group

STOP! I am new to this so if I'm in the wrong place let me know. Today I'm reaching out. I've gotten out of control. I'm starting to have serious health issues and I frightened. I don't know what to do and where to focus first. I feel like I'm doomed. At the rate I'm going I'll be dead by 50. My son won't have a mom and my husband will be alone. All my dreams will be nothing and seem to be nothing already. I'm really sad today. Feel like giving up. I just don't know who to turn to or where to start.

Hi and welcome you are in the right place, this is a first step for you to get sober, i am glad you fund us, and i will do all i can to help you just be patient, with yourself rome wasn't built ina day and drinking takes a while before you hit bottom, your first step is to stop, so if you have stopped we are making progress already, don't beat yourself up we all have been there, and i know exactly how you feel i was there , and it does scare you , so just take a deep breath, and know we are here to back you 100% and we do love you so you are not alone, it really is just one day at a time, pls. feel free to keep posting and get everything off your chest, we are her to listen also, so iwant to get this off to you asap, much love debi

what kind of support groups or rehab centers do you have where you live ?

thats always a good place to start. you have to want it. it will be the most important decision of your life. there are ways to survival and recovery. keep posting

odie

I'm sorry I haven't been back. I appreciate the supportive responses. What would help me is to ask, what made you want to stop? What was it that was so impressive upon you that you stopped. I'm so amazed at the hold this has on me. I went from being able to drink a couple of glasses of wine a day to a whole bottle. That's where I'm at. I drink a bottle of wine a day. That's a big one too, not the normal sized ones. Between the calories and alcohol I'm injuring myself. Why isn't that knowledge enough for me to stop??? Thanks!

Welcome again, what made me want to stop was i was sick of: being a slave to alcohol, never able to control myself, sick and tired of watching my life and my childrens life be ruined by alcohol, i was done i had all i cold stand of getting drunk and being screwed up and out of control, 1 was too many and 1000 was never enough, i wanted to be free , i was sick from booze my liver was destroyed, i pssed out and came to i never fell asleep and woke up, i had forgotten what that was, i wanted my life back, i couldnt live like that another day i busted the bottles called the operator on the phone and told her my problem, aa came to my house for me, and rescued me. i have never been like that for 22 years i am fee. love debi

Can you not drink for one day? Have you ever tried that? Have you ever tried to drink less in a day? Do you crave a drink? I suggest you go to AA. Those people really know what they are talking about and their books are fantastic. I suggest you go to a meeting and get a Big Book (Alcoholics Anonymous). and the 12x12 book, the step book. Just take it one day at a time and if you drink just pick yourself up and dust yourself off and try again. AA can help you with this too. I have been sober since 1989 and all but live in AA and I am sure if I didn't go to AA I would eventually end up drunk again. It is a life line for me. Going to AA and getting a sponsor to help you take it one day at a time, call them before you take a drink is a good way to get off the booze. That phone call may be just what you need to keep from drink. It will work out if you are willing to get sober. Good luck.

i have to agree with Kelti, if you truely want to stop you need more help than a computer you can call aa find the meeting closest to you and get yourself to a meeting things are not getting any better this way so try it, 1 phone call changed my life 22 years ago, i am still sober,and now able to help others so you you can do this, then so you help others that is how it works there are other groups so, i would call AA central office in your town, and ask them where the next meeting is and go, so i am happy to tell you it works, so do that pls, love debi

what made me stop was, i made a promise to a new friend that i wouldnt be a friend that was a drunk. for 15 years, even though we are no longer friends.. i have kept that promise. i had to make it for myself NOT HER.

there are many ways to quit drinking. some alkies like myself will find something worth quitting for. some will go to support groups. some will try it on their own.

there are many support groups out there. no one has the right to tell you which one is right for you.. they dont know you. they .. like the person above can suggest. its up to you to find what works for you.

what was so impressive for me was, seeing reality for what it is. through sober eyes.

realizing that i didnt need to get drunk to be somebody or deal with issues.

it too controlled me. i answered when it called. it was my life. i wanted MY life back. you may stumble and fall but as long as you get back up ... you wont fail.

its the desire in your heart to quit drinking ... for YOU. NO ONE ELSE. you cant do it for her,him, your parents, child .. you have to do it for you.

you will think differently, see things in a different lite.

dont wait for the day that you will have a year, or two years. be happy when you have completed ONE DAY. we didnt get that way over nite and it WILL take time.

you will be adjusting alot of things. i didnt hang with ppl that drank anymore. idont like being around ppl that are drinking. not because i might drink but because i simply dont like it. i have changed. you will change. you will see yourself in a different way as well. find a support group. if it works great. try a couple. find one that works for you and give all that energy you gave to drinking.

you will be putting your thoughts in a different direction. the outcome will suprise you.

odiecom

Hi I think AA is a wouderful place to start. Perhaps for you a phone call to the local group first, to the number you can find in the phone book, the AA central office for a local number, like debi said or the newspaper, will help as you will have talked to someone and they will be looking for you at that meeting. You can also just walk in, as they have almost all been where you are and they will love you. Remember it is a place for those who have quit drinking and THOSE WHO WANT TO QUIT. You will be welcome.

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Remember it is only 1 day at a time all we are given is tody yeaterday is now today and tommorrow has not yrt comr do you live in 2days at once, no so we have only yhe day we are in to be concerned with, i am glad i only live in today that is hard enogh so live today , amd tommorrow takes care of itdelf. the way we live one day at a time, and AA is so easy to find, you can find out AA in a flash, i am so glad you joined us noe write ud back ok? we care and are cocerned for youmuch Love Debi