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I recently purchased a book of daily affirmations on forgiving and moving on (in fact, that's the title of the book). I got this book because I need to learn to forgive myself for a lot of things, but mostly because of the house fire. I carry a lot of guilt regarding this event, even though it was an accident.

But any way, the reason that I'm sharing this is because of today's affirmation. It really hit me and feel it will fit in with a lot of us. So I want to share it with everyone.

"Today I know that there is nothing to be afraid of because my Higher Power and love underpin all that is. At the very core of me is not darkness and fear but love and light. My mind is constantly creating fears to hold on to, not because I am afraid to admit to the extent of my hatred, but because I am afraid to admit to the extent of my love. When I allow myself to be a the source of love and to recognize it as a fundamental mystery of creations, I sense that no matter what happens I will be all right. I allow love to the basis of my life."

Thank you Wen. Those words are full of meaning.

Yesterday, after my therapy session, my therapist excused herself and brought me back a small business card...It reads:

" What you think of me is

NONE OF MY BUSINESS"

That quote is so accurate to my feelings...thanks Wen.

You're welcome ladies, I'm glad to have shared it.

Reba, I love that saying....it's great!

Love the quotes

Reba what you posted is so very true

Wen I love the quote you posted

Here's a link with some great advice on positive affirmation

http://www.openzine.com/aspx/Zine.aspx?IssueID=1738

Great Affirmations - Letting Go of Worry Over Others' Thoughts

I let go of others' opinions of me. It is not my mental business what they think.

I enjoy who I am as a person and who I portray to others. I am truly satisfied with who I am and fully accept myself.

The opinion I have of myself is good enough for me; others’ opinions are not my concern because I choose to stay in my own mental business and I am secure in who I am.

I let go of my concern over what others may think of me. Worrying about what impression I may make on others is not healthy for me and I let go of this urge. What other people think of me is none of my business.

I cannot control others’ thoughts anyway, so I focus, instead, on my own thoughts and actions. I remain true to myself, thus coming out of every situation with a high opinion of myself, which is what matters.

Other people may think what they want, but I am just a story they tell themselves about me. They see only a portion of who I am, so they will have an opinion at best. I, however, know my truth and value my opinion of me much more.

Today I am focusing my attention on what I think of myself and I am letting go of the mind's tendency to worry about others’ opinions. I accept myself and enjoy who I am.

Do You Worry About What Others Think of You?

“What you think of me is none of my business.” – Wayne Dyer

What would your life look like if you were literally unable to worry about other people’s opinions?

What a freedom that would be! You would live according to what you thought was beneficial for you and make decisions without second-guessing, over-analyzing, and shoulda-coulda-woulda-ing. You would no longer have any need for approval nor fear of disapproval.

The truth is, we don’t have any need for approval. Not truly. It is our egos that crave approval and fear disapproval. The mind loves to take things very personally and attempts to gain power through approval and disapproval games. When we separate ourselves from our ego, approval and disapproval have no value whatsoever. And nothing is taken personally.

In reality, another person’s thought or opinion about you is never personal, because it is never really about you in the first place. It’s about them. Our thoughts about anything and everything are only about ourselves. As Byron Katie points out, what I think and what I feel is my business. What you think and what you feel is your business. When I’m worried about how you feel about me, I’m in your business. And if I’m busy living in your business, how am I present for my own business?

When we let go of worrying over other people’s opinions, we are free to reflect on our own opinions of ourselves. Am I happy with myself? Did I make the right decision for me? Am I happy with how I treated you? Am I living in healthy and positive ways, for the highest good of everyone involved?

Living according to our own truth is one of the highest acts of self-love and self-care. And when you live according to your truth and stay in your own mental business, others will honor you and the truth you live, too, whether they agree with you or not.

"Patterning your life around others' opinions is nothing more than slavery."

- Lawana Blackwell

Connie, I love what you posted. It's all so true - we don't need anyone else's approval. What other's think of us just doesn't matter. Great post.

Here is today's affirmation.

Character

I will rely on my basic strength and knowing today. All the theories in the world cannot make a "me" if there is no "me" inside. I cannot replace ideas and methods for a self. Part of my co-dependency seeks for self-definition through the ideas and thoughts of others. This leaves me a sitting duck for being led and manipulated by anyone who shows an interest in me. Even though co-dependency makes me feel as if I am without a self, it is not really so. I have simply mislaid myself in other people's pockets or hidden what self I had underneath layers and layers of protection. Recovery helps me to remove those layers so that I can see better was was always there. I have self and character.

When a person lacks character, he is badly in need of a method.

~ Albert Camus ~

This is my favorite poem, "I Am Me" by Virginia Satir

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=41oAmiUxpQc&feature=related

I love the song that accompanies it too

Very nice!!!