Hi everyone,
I don't know if I am in the correct place, but I thought I would start here. If I need to go to a different support group please let me know.
My husband had been agoraphobic since 2004. It was probably coming on before that but we ignored the sings. In December 2004 he had his first panic attack and then I knew even if he didn't.
Since then he had become extremely difficult to live with. At this moment I am contemplating leaving and letting hm get along be himself. I know it sounds selfish but I just don't know how much longer I can take his behavior.
He has what I call temper tantrums. If something doesn't go just right for him, he throws things and uses the most awful language. He is short tempered and angry all the time. No exaggeration. He has no apology after he has had his tantrum. I guess he thinks I should just sit there and take it. The times I have spoke up, it becomes my fault and I should just "don't say anything."
He is not as bad agoraphobics because he can leave the house. Our driveway is 400 feet long and he can go to the end of that. He can go out into the garage. To go any further away from home he has to be heavily medicated. He takes adivan for those times. Four sometimes five or six pills.
We are constantly strapped for money because our only income is from his social security (he is 71, I am 53), and from his union pension. He doesn't want me to go to work because he would worry too much.
If I just run onto town to the grocery store I have to call him to let him know that I am doing fine. I need to call him if I am even just going to the neighbors house. I sometimes think he is trying to make me into an agoraphobic.
He has no concentration for anything. He is not interested in anything. He sleeps most of every day. But complains of not sleeping well.
How does a spouse do this and remain mentally healthy? I am on anti-depressants but I hate having to take them just to deal with his problems.
His doctor has been patient with him over the years but even he doesn't know what to try next. He has been on many different medications and many different strengths. The doctor suggested therapy but my husband refused it. He said he was too old.
I am thinking of leaving but without any money it is hard to imagine. I can't remember the last time I have been relaxed.
Is this the right group for me? Does anyone have suggestions?
Thanks for listening.
