Agoraphobia Support Group

Why is everybody apologizing for being negative? Why do we feel like when we have bad days and need to reach out for support, that we are doing something wrong? That bothers me.....sure we have a lot of silly fun on Agor too, but we are first and foremost a SUPPORT group. We are here so you can post about your bad days, as well as your good. Your trials, AND your triumphs. It's a ying and a yang....but your allowed to ying AND yang.....i'm not saying anybody is doing anything wrong, i'm just saying it bothers me seeing a lot of people apologizing for being "negative". I know i've not been on the positive train myself a lot lately eiether! But, I want to just post this to let people know that you DON'T have to apologize for posting about your struggles, or your bad days. Sure we like to keep the balance, like the ying and yang, but MDJ is here first and foremost for HELP and SUPPORT.

Thanks Irish!!!

Amen sister Erin! <-- that means I agree.

Post edited by: SillyOMe, at: 06/19/2012 05:49 AM

Post edited by: damselndistress, at: 06/19/2012 11:46 AM

Ok, let's get a few things straight. A) apparently I get very soapboxy posting at 7am. and I did NOT post this to start drama, please nobody make it personal against the group. I posted this to say while I agree we need a balance, that doesn't mean that people have to apologize for sharing their struggles or bad days. That's all.

Damsel- I would like to really focus on what you said because I have seen you write about the same thing ever since I was a GL and posted what the thread of being more positive. I have seen you continually make digs at this whole concept for such a long time and I haven't said a thing. First off I totally agree with Erin. And that thread I made way back when I clarified myself or at least I thought I did. It wasn't at all to be fake and put a facade. It was to stop the group from spiraling to far the reason: NO ONE WAS BEING SUPPORTIVE at that particular moment. It wasn't to stop the group from sharing their problems. It was for all of us to stop for a moment and support others going through difficulty. Since stepping down and since that thread you haven't stopped making the digs. So I need to just CLARIFY IT ONCE AGAIN what I was trying to do for the group. And hey guess what it apparently got everyone talking and everyone supporting each other again.

It was for the good of the group at that moment based on other members and group leaders who were CONCERNED about the group.

Post edited by: damselndistress, at: 06/19/2012 11:47 AM

Ummm you said: "When I first came there was a lot of emphasis on only posting positive and complaints that the group was getting too negative"

If it wasn't meant for this group then why say something about it to this group?!?!

Look I am not trying to start drama either but I am trying to stop it. Because like I said this is not the first time you posted the same comment on here. And ever since that thread you have made these same remarks to THIS group.

Your opinion is just that your opinion just as mine is mine. But I find it quite funny that it is continuing to be brought up and the way you specifically wrote about it is directed towards this group.

A support group is just that a SUPPORT group. Like Erin said there should be BALANCE. When the group doesn't balance itself out it is up the GL's to fix the issues the group may be having. Whether or not you may or may not agree with it (by you I mean everyone) it is in the best interest of the group.

But to bring up the past of how the groups where meant to be. Why do that? Why start something that isn't here anymore. You are being supportive to others are you not??? Then you are doing your job as a member of a support group

Which may I add I HAVE seen you be supportive to others.