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03/18/2012 10:34 AM

How To Change Your Emotional State Fast

SillyOMe
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Hi Guys! I get the emails all the time and as you know I post some that strike a cord with me.

This one did because of this week's events. Helplessness seems to be on a lot of people's emotional plates this week. Might as well be Brussel sprouts for I dearly HATE the taste of it!

As for the exercise to "cure" this... it costs $12.00! Well.. I'm not buying that! LOL But I think we can deduce the cure at the end.. we need to freely feel the emotions that overcome us. Then let more productive feelings.. emotions... come into us... no.... MAKE them come to our conscience mind to override or over come these destructive, worthless, and self-defeating emotions.

How To Change Your Emotional State Fast

Maybe you know what it's like to be stuck in an emotional rut.

No matter what you do, you just can't break out of it.

It's like you're stuck in a bubble which surrounds you. You try

to reach the edge of the bubble, but it moves as you move. Try

as you might, you can't grab hold of the edge and rip it to shreds.

It's always just out of reach.

It might be a bubble of pain. It might be a bubble of sorrow. It

might be a bubble of lack. It could be anything, really. A bubble

of depression. Or anxiety.

The common denominator is that you're powerless to do anything about

it. Not just pretend-powerless, where you play some sort of game

with yourself. That's not what I'm talking about here. I'm talking

about being stuck in a fishbowl with slick glass sides that you can't

get a grip on.

You can flail and cry and thrash about, but it doesn't do any good.

You're trapped. Stuck. Imprisoned in the truest sense of the word.

Sometimes, when you're at this point of powerlessness, you can simply

feel the energy of powerlessness, and that will be enough to lift you

out of it. I always recommend this to people: feel your powerlessness!

The problem is, we often get stuck in the thoughts of powerlessness,

rather than truly feeling it. When you think about powerlessness,

without feeling it, you'll end up with rage.

When you think about your powerlessness, such as by blaming, or

explaining, or rationalizing, or justifying, or doing something

else other than simply feeling it - then you will stay stuck.

And you will be producing rage.

If you will truly feel the feelings of powerlessness, sometimes it

will indeed lift you out of it, and it will help you get unstuck.

Especially if you can feel the feelings without going into self-pity.

Feeling your powerlessness - cleanly - will tend to make you more

powerful. Strange, but true. Because feeling anything cleanly

will tend to make you more powerful.

Sometimes, however, feeling your powerlessness is not enough.

Because when you're stuck in an emotional state, there's a lot

more going on than just powerlessness. And that's what I want

to talk about today.

There's other energies at play here, that mix with the powerlessness.

Such as despair, loneliness, anguish, frustration, and other similar

feelings. Sometimes, there's a whole bunch of unidentified feelings

all mixed together and it forms a synergy.

A synergy is when different energies or objects come together in

such a way that their very combination creates something new.

Something that is more powerful than the individual components

which make it up.

It becomes like a bubble that surrounds you. Powerlessness is

part of the package, yes. But that's not the only thing in the

bubble. There's all kinds of stuff. They end up forming a type

of prison.

Now, of course, the normal reaction at this point is to distract

yourself from it as long as possible. Watch TV. Get on the computer.

Play video games. Work harder and longer. Play harder and longer.

Pick a fight with somebody. Create chaos in your life. The

possibilities are endless.

We live in a world overflowing with distractions.

You see people like this every day. Always doing something.

Always busy. No time. That's the way they've created it. No

time for themselves. No time to sit and think and feel about

their situation.

Eventually, something happens. Wherever the weakest link is.

Something breaks. Either as a whisper or a shout. Something demands

you pay attention. Then you have to work even harder to avoid dealing

with the energy that's keeping you imprisoned!

I'd like to offer another option. Because avoidance and distraction

only work for so long. Besides, wouldn't you rather be proactive?

It seems like such a smarter alternative.

See, the energy that surrounds you - that synergy of negativity -

that resonance of limitation and lack and pain and suffering - it

can be changed. It can be broken apart and reformed into a new

resonance.

That resonance of negativity that's dragging you down - the resonance

that's more powerful than you - there's a way to break it like an egg.

Once you've broken it apart, a new one is going to form. Guaranteed.

Because you're always surrounded by some sort of resonance. Always.

There's no way around it.

But you can actually put whatever you want into that new resonance.

You get to choose!

You put in the energies you want - and then it forms a new resonance

which is stronger than even the wonderful, uplifting energies you

contributed. You put in love, for example, and the new resonance

has an even stronger energy than the love you added.

I hope you can appreciate how profound this really is.

Just as powerful as that old resonance was at dragging you down,

that's how powerful the new resonance will be at lifting you up.

That's exciting! It means you don't have to stay stuck. It means

you have much more say-so in your emotional state than you might

imagine. It means things can change, and nothing - nothing - has

to stay the same.

There are no limitations on the power of resonance.

If there is such a thing as 'law of attraction' - then it's resonance.

Your reality is created out of your resonance. 100% of the time.

Reality precipitates out of resonance. Your reality precipitates

out of your resonance.

And you can choose what to put into your resonance!

You already have. You already are. Now, you can do it consciously.

By choice, rather than 'just letting it happen'. Rather than letting

the world or circumstances dictate what happens to you.

You can consciously choose your resonance. It's not even that hard.

You just have to know how to do it. You just need to follow the

process.

I've been working with resonance for years. Many times I've forgotten

how powerful it really is. I've forgotten how well it works to change

me. But when the chips are down, I always come back to it. And it

never lets me down.

If anything, it's become more powerful of a technique over the years.

Sadly, those who need to do this the most, are the ones most likely

to say "I'll bet this won't work for me."

And I would say, "You're already proving resonance works." Every

second of every day.

Who do you think created your current resonance? Mickey Mouse?

If you'll just stop for a second, and get clear inside yourself,

you'll realize you created your resonance. And you're recreating

it (or, repeating it) all the time.

All I'm saying is, you can consciously take charge of what you've

already been doing less-consciously.

Take charge consciously, of what you've been doing your whole life.

The voice that says, "This won't work for me" is part of the resonance

that needs to be changed.

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03/18/2012 10:36 AM
SillyOMe
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If you just skimmed over that post for whatever reason... stop... please go back and read it. It's important.

03/18/2012 10:41 AM
SillyOMe
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How many times have we suggested to each other to "Watch a funny movie, do something fun.. etc." These are great distractions for short time anxiety attacks.. panic attacks (if you can concentrate). But they are not a proactive change. They do sometimes work for me... watch a few good movies, talk to friends that can lift your spirits, or something else..... they can get you out of funk.

But when the BIG things hit. It can't be changed by external distractions. I 100% agree. Our meds help a lot... but when it comes right down to it....... IT'S YOUR OWN MIND THAT CAN FIX HOW YOU PERCEIVE AND DEAL WITH YOUR EMOTIONAL STATE! You have the power inside you to change how you feel.


03/18/2012 10:44 AM
SillyOMe
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I REFUSE to let external circumstances, people, and my life in general to control my happiness. I will fight for every damn minute of happiness that I DESERVE!

Will you?


03/18/2012 10:50 AM
SillyOMe
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synergy

Definition

A state in which two or more things work together in a particularly fruitful way that produces an effect greater the sum of their individual effects. Expressed also as "the whole is greater than the sum of its parts."


03/18/2012 12:49 PM
Conn65
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I love this post Silly !!!!! I have to admit I started to skim because it was long, but then I went back and took my time and read the whole thing. I recently made a promise to myself that I am going to take control of my own happiness and stop letting other people, my hurt emotions, or uncontrollable circumstances control my life and happiness anymore. Way tougher than I thought, but I'm working on it.

03/18/2012 01:39 PM
crawlingbacktostart
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Totally skimmed. I'm giddy today anyway, I don't wanna know why.Smile

03/19/2012 07:40 AM
lu1063
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Great post Silly.

03/19/2012 12:48 PM
SillyOMe
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Dylan... skim milk... not my posts!!!!!!!!

Lu.. it IS a good post! Thanks!


03/19/2012 06:44 PM
mabri
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Great, Silly. Did you write this? It is really awesome, and so truthful. Thanks for sharing. HUGS
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