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10/16/2007 09:07
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Hello to everyone out there! I'm not quite sure where to begin so I'll just start from the top.

My son will be 4 this coming weekend and has been in PreK since last year. To me, he is a bright energetic young man that LOVES school and is just a very happy little guy. So you can imagine my surprise when out of the blue sometime towards the end of the school year last year we started getting letters and phone calls from his PreK regarding his "impulsiveness" and inability to "sit still". Of course, I chalked this up as him just being young and didn't give it much concern at that time. However, this school year is starting out the same. He is supposed to be in class MWF from 9:15am to 2:15pm, but has yet be allowed to stay passed 12:00, because the teachers and staff say it's "just to hard on him" (I'm beginning to believe it's actually just more than THEY want to handle). I've been to a parent-teacher conference at least weekly since school started...finally at the last conference the teacher slipped the AD/HD term in there, I'll be honest - I was completely shocked! I didn't see this in him....but then I question myself because he is my oldest and his behavior is all I've ever known. He is not abusive, but a very sweet loving young man. Granted, he is very energetic and I guess now that it's been brought to light for me, maybe he is much more energetic than the rest of his peers. The director and teachers have sat down and gone over a few "examples" which range from: while the class is listening to the teacher read, he may stand up and sing his ABC's, to in her words his inability to control his arms and legs and may decide to dance around whem it's inappropriate, and the inability to control his impulses. At any rate, they have given us information to contact our local school district for testing and also to our Pedi for a medical diagnoses. I've called both today and began the processes as directed. More than anything, I just want to help him anyway possible if in fact he is ADHD. I've read as much as possible regarding ADHD and everything is VERY overwhelming....I certainly have questions and concerns regarding medication, testing, treatment and schooling. My son absolutely LOVES going to school and with YEARS of it ahead of him, my goal is to do everything possible to make sure that outlook continues. However, recently I can see the disappointment on his teachers face as we approach the door to drop him off.....which is so sad, because he is unaware and just wants to be there with his friends.

Bottom line.....it looks like we've got a battle ahead of us and I will stand with my son and do what is best by him till the end.

Does anything I'm saying make ANY sense to anyone?? I'm completely at a loss and have no friends with ADHD children and just want hear what those parents think! Thank you in advance for your time! ANY suggestions or comments are welcome!

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10/16/2007 09:16
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ADHD and Your School-Aged Child

Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a condition

of the brain that makes it hard for children to control their

behavior. It is one of the most common chronic conditions of

childhood. All children have behavior problems at times.

Children with ADHD have frequent, severe problems that

interfere with their ability to live normal lives.

A child with ADHD may have one or more of

the following behavior symptoms:

• Inattention -Has a hard time paying attention, daydreams,

is easily distracted, is disorganized, loses a lot

of things.

• Hyperactivity -Seems to be in constant motion, has

difficulty staying seated, squirms, talks too much.

• Impulsivity -Acts and speaks without thinking, unable

to wait, interrupts others.

• These guidelines are for children 6 to 12 years of age. It is

difficult to diagnose ADHD in children who are younger

than this age group.

• The diagnosis is a process that involves several steps. It

requires information about your child’s behavior from you,

your child’s school, and/or other caregivers.

• Your pediatrician also will look for other conditions that

have the same types of symptoms as ADHD. Some children

have ADHD and another (coexisting) condition, e.g., conduct

disorder, depression, anxiety, or a learning disability.

• There is no proven test for ADHD at this time.

If your child has ADHD, the symptoms will

• Occur in more than one setting, such as home, school,

and social settings.

• Be more severe than in other children the same age.

• Start before your child reaches 7 years of age.

• Continue for more than six months.

• Make it difficult to function at school, at home, and/or

in social settings.

What does treatment for ADHD involve?

As with other chronic conditions, families must manage the

treatment of ADHD on an ongoing basis. In most cases,

treatment for ADHD includes the following:

1. A long-term management plan. This will have:

• Target outcomes (behavior goals, e.g., better school

work)

• Follow-up activities (e.g., medication, making changes

that affect behavior at school and at home)

• Monitoring (checking the child’s progress with the target

outcomes)

2. Medication. For most children, stimulant medications are

a safe and effective way to relieve ADHD symptoms.

3. Behavior Therapy. This focuses on changing the child’s

environment to help improve behavior.

4. Parent Training. Training can give parents specific skills

to deal with ADHD behaviors in a positive way.

5. Education. All involved need to understand what ADHD is.

6. Teamwork. Treatment works best when doctors, parents,

teachers, caregivers, other health care professionals, and

the child work together.

It may take some time to tailor your child’s treatment plan

to meet his needs. Treatment may not fully eliminate the

ADHD-type behaviors. However, most school-aged children

with ADHD respond well when their treatment plan includes

both stimulant medications and behavior therapy.

Is there a cure for ADHD?

There is no proven cure for ADHD at this time. The cause

of ADHD is unclear. Research is ongoing to learn more about

the role of the brain in ADHD and the best ways to treat the

disorder. Many good treatment options are available. The

outlook for children who receive treatment for ADHD is

encouraging.

As a parent, you play a very important part in providing

effective treatment for your child.

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10/16/2007 09:21
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I understand. We just went through the testing process and it's hard listening to people tell you that your son has it. My son is the oldest and he has always been hard to handle. I just figured he was my "hard one" and the youngest is different. I can't put my son on med.s and it's hard because the schools seem to encourage the med.s. Hang in there. I have been working with him for about 4 months now. Last year was the worst. I got calls all the time and I thought maybe the teacher and him don't work. So, I moved him to the other class and then that teacher was not helpful. I am here, I am new as well and I hope we might be able to vent to each other. Stand Strong!!!!

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10/16/2007 09:33
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you leave a message on here anytime

and if im not here pop over to my group the adress is below

you dont have to join i can open it up so you can just look

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im about always somewhere

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10/16/2007 21:13
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Hi Brooke! I have been in your shoes. My son is the sweetest little guy and just never understood what all the fuss was about. Your son sounds like he has my little guys (well he's in 6th grade now) type of ADHD. Impulsive. I know the look the teachers are giving you and it used to make me cry. I'd cry before I picked him up because I eventually became so accustomed to what the teachers were going to say...and my son just never understood. He would run circles (literally) around the P.E. class when they were learning how to do something. Never mean spirited yet always in trouble. My advice as a mom that's been there? See what your son can do,what he's good at, focus on it, develop it. Try to find a school that is willing to give him the discipline (yes my guy responds really well to thoughtful discipline) he needs and not just call you to pick him up or treat him like he's a failure. Call around and find a doc that is good with ADHD kids. Go to the CHADD website. It has a ton of help. Some kids don't need meds...some do...some never get their meds right...some do. Never give up, don't cry too much Actually, you've been blessed with an amazing child. My son's psychologist said that this type of ADHD is what Einstien had. Impulsive and bright. Drives teachers crazy!! When you get the chance, have him tested...he may be gifted, often these kids are.

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10/17/2007 08:17
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Your so right Mazing!! Your son does sound alot like Riley! It does crush me when I see Riley running into school with such excitement and then be greeted by someone that is clearly less than happy to see him. I too have spent many mornings and afternoons crying after dropping off or picking up. I just have real problem when I'm being called to pick him up early because I'm told that "Riley was singing his ABC's while we were trying to have quiet time". Am I supposed to punish Riley for singing his ABC's? Another thing I've noticed is how much Riley's diet plays into his ADHD, sugar is not our friend to say the least. I've explained to his teacher and the director that I've tried to change up alot of his intake, ie LOW sugar or sugar free if possible (with an occasional exception as a treat when he's at home) since this sends him into 5th gear for sure. Then on an afternoon when I'm called to pick him up because he is "wild today", I find out that for snack the teacher has made a treat of marshmallows, chocolate chips, chex mix, and who knows what else. Gee, I wonder WHY he's hyper today??

But at any rate, it's just so nice to hear from people out there that UNDERSTAND and have such encouraging things to say!! You've all inspired me more than you know! I will definitely take the advice and see what I can do regarding speaking with his teachers again and try to find what we can do as a team to help him along. I did contact both my Pedi and the PPCD program through our school district, and have set up appointments! I will certainly keep up with this website and keep you all posted! It sounds like we may have a big hill to climb to get there....but I've no doubt we will all make it. And Mazing I will do that about the testing, I've been told the same thing about a large majority of ADHD children are actually very gifted

Again....thank you from the bottom of my heart!

Brooke

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