ADHD Support Group

I'm somewhat new here....but am happy to see your post. I know for me I just started treatment for Adult ADHD. My boyfriend, until pretty recently, never understood what I was going through and didn't seem to want to even try. I would say that the biggest things for me are patience and understanding. I have a very hard time getting started with tasks, I get overwhelmed very easily. I would also say that any reading books about ADD/ADHD together and going to support groups ( if he wants to) would be a big help too!

It is often difficult for those around us to understand this disorder and accept it. It seems like a lot of people think we are just plain lazy which we know is not the case.

Keep on posting, hit your local library or bookstore and educate yourself. You didn't mention your meds but I assume you are on something that will help. I would be lost without my Adderall, but I think I'm starting to build a tolerance for it.

I am also very easily overwhelmed. Sometimes you just have to take a deep breath and do one thing at a time. If staying orgasnized is a problem, there is a group for "Disorganized and Messy" which has a lot of great ideas and has really helped me.

Good luck and I hope you keep posting and close to the group.

For those know-it-all who treat us as "pretending to suffer because we are only lazy people", I ask if they'd rather swap our place and have a discussion after a month. Generally speaking, they don't even dare looking at me when it comes in these terms.

Those know-it-all, who repeat like parrots what everyone say, are here to speak and bad mouth, but are never here to do, help... whatever you want.

So, in such a case, you ask them to do, here swapping their non-ADD/ADHD with your ADD/ADHD in order for those to walk in your shoes.

If they consider that "I make everything to fail my life because I do this or that", I reply that it is what I decided and that if they are unhappy, it will be the same/if they are unhappy, it is their problem, not mine.

Those know-it-all have to deal with it because you will absolutely not deal with their problem, they have to deal with their unhappiness with your decision.

Thesse tips are two of mine to deal with the stigma associated with adult ADHD. Colleen, don't hesitate to ask your son to swap his not-being-ADHD and your ADHD for a month and then, he will be able to give his opinion of know-it-all.

Otherwise, I fear that he will bully someone else one day.

Regards

Colleen

I understand better now what you mean.

I shared my tips about dealing with stigma/know-it-all parrots who have no mental illness but claim to know everything and come with their own unwelcomed advice about how you must live your life "because you know, otherwise, you'll only be a failure" and bla bla bla... (what we don't need to hear sometimes !!! Better being deaf than hearing those things !)

Managing someone who drinks is indeed a pain in the neck ! My father decided to self-medicate his ADHD symptoms with alcohol and pot. Of course, mom said that everything is normal, and for her, drunk driving is no big deal...

I didn't absolutely listen to her. I sent my dad to an administrative medical exam for driving license.

I would lie to you if I said that it was easy in family after that.

But at least, dad had to deal with the consequences of HIS mess, HE had to explain himself with doctors about HIS drinking. I didn't have to deal with his mess and that was great.

I let my mom calling me names if she wanted, but I did not let her rescue him and preventing me from making dad face HIS responsibilities for HIS addiction and self medicating. She could not enable him and it was great. Even if I was the nasty, but I don't care.