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finkers08 Posts: 14
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Hi, I'm new to this group and looking for a little help. I met my fiance last year. I have 3 children from a previous relationship and he has a daughter. My children are 11,4, and 1. His daughter is 6. When we first met he told me that his daughter had some problems with agression that he has personally experienced along with his parents. Everything was going fine in the begining so we moved in together. About 1 month of us being there things began to happen. His daughter tried to put a pillow over my daughters face more than once so we put a lock on her door. She tried to push my oldest down the basement stairs and bit my 4 year old so hard that he bled. He had sat down with me and said he had also since she was 2 experienced things like this. She has been physically abusive to her father and I. she also locked the dog in his kennel and sprayed him with air freshner. We decided to have her go to therapy but that wasn't working. The therapist refered her to a mental health facility where she stayed for 2 weeks. When she came home nothing changed. The therapy continued and they put her on adderal (sp) and seroquel XR that ended quickly due to the fact that being in this home was hard, grandma decided to take her part time. She didn't agree with the meds and took her off with out telling us. Now she started school and is having problems in school she no longer is allowed scissors or glue and possibly not crayons. Her teacher feels she is very dangerous with scissors and has been caught cutting books and other peoples stuff and the glue is because she will squeeze a hole bottle out, the crayons because she will take all the crayons and break them. Yesterday she got caught coloring on the wall and in a school book. Her teacher emailed me yesterday with not knowing what to do because she has 14 other children to look after and teach and she was looking for advice. She is still continuing the therapy and being re evaluated in march for meds. Her teacher says that she seems very withdrawn and keeps getting into fights and is very impulsive and doesn't have any friends at school.She also paralell plays. She was diagnoised with ADHD and other things. I feel that medication would help her and I don't know what more to do. Grandma feels that she can fix all of her problems and it's been 6 months and there are no changes. The school refused to do an IEP because they said they saw improvement since being by grandma but now my step daughter is acting out over at grandmas. she broke a loaf open over a chair because she was mad, she has hit grandma too. I guess im venting and looking to see if some of these things would stop if she were to have medication. She wasn't on the meds long enough for us to see a change. Please help, any advice or thoughts we be so helpful.
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