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Forgiveness and letting go are perhaps among the most difficult steps in the process of recovery. There is something about having problems that makes us feel that we are alive and have a purpose. To forgive and let go----- to truely release the old resentment----- fill us with not only a sense of freedom but a sense of dread as well----- A FEAR OF THE VOID! If I don't have a problem or painful issue to work on, what will there be of me----- without my problems to identify with and occupy my thoughts and emotions, who am I. We forgive, not for the other person, but for ourselves. We Forgive not to erase a wrong, but to relieve the residue of the wrong that is alive within us. We Forgive because it is less painful than holding on to resentment. We forgive because without it we condemn ourselves to repeating endlessly the very trauma or situation that hurt us so. We forgive because it restores us to a sense of inner balance. Letting go is an act of surrender, a recognition and acceptance of things as they are, a comming to grips that we live in a less than perfect world. It is not just a thought but a constant daily process, a turning over. From the book--- Forgiving and Moving On by Tian Dayton Ph.D. Your Friend, Chris |
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