Addiction Recovery Support Group

Hi

I have been out of treatment for 4 days and I am really worried I am just not getting into new life on the outside. I was in treatment in bournemouth for 12 weeks and have since come back to essex and I am so scared I just havent got it. I havent had a drink today so thats the main thing.

I haven't come back to what I left when I went into rehab. I split up with my live in partner of 5 years so I am staying at my parents while he moves out, I have a new relationship back in bournemouth which I am strugglin to deal without, so much so I drove to bournemouth 2 and a half hours last night at half ten and drove back at half 4 this mornig just to spend the night with him.

I have an eating disorder which is not helping as I am trying to control it but have just put on so much weight. Just feel horrible.

I just cant get motivated to do anything. I am forcing myself to get to meetings every night. It just does not feel nice being back. I feel very lonely and I know I am not alone. I am planning on moving back to Bournemouth for good but can see how I am going to do that. I am just really struggling. Dont know what to do. - I dont want to drink or anything just dont know what else to do other than eat and I dont want to do that either.

Welcome to our group. I'm so glad you haven't had another drink!

Does the guy in Bornemouth feel the same way about you as you do him? Seems like you are the one making all the plans and doing all the work.

Try not to worry about what you are eating so much right now and concentrate on staying sober, that is most important right now. You've got it, you have what it takes to stay sober. Don't throw all that you have learned in treatment down in drain.

Get motivated about your life by setting goals for yourself, such as being able to move when you are ready, live on your own, etc. Also, some type of exercise will make you feel much better, even if it's only a short walk every day.

You feel lonely right now because your missing someone. If that special someone feels the same about you, they will make the effort to come to where you are. Hang tough, you will be okay, hugs, jenn

By stopping drinking, it increases your appitite especailly for sweet things, alcohol has sugar in it, but now that you stopped drinking your body is craving that sugar. I never ate sweet things until I stopped drinking and gained so much weight.

You need to start by setting goals for yourself, like moving back to bournemouth to your place there, do you want to redecorate maybe paint some rooms or jusr rearrange the furniture, make a list of all the changes you will want to do, You pick a goal but don't worry about it, concentrate on the small steps you need to do to reach the bigger goal, if you think of the big piccture it will confuse and scare you that you won't be able to accomplish it.Now about your weight pick one of the weight plans around (I could never follow them on what to eat and when) or just eat healthy food, make a daily meal plan, in the morning write out your meal plan and try to stick to it. I have a small book that I write everything I eat or drink, the calories, fat grams. calories from fat gram, saturated fat gram and percentage, sugar gram, then total it and see how I am doing the saturated fat grams are the bad ones and I have a disease that does not process the fat grams so gained weight. There are many goals you can work toward but lets just start w/ those 2 and see how you do.

Remember we are here for you every step of the way,

Where do you live, just by the way you write things I know you are not from US, or just moved here,

Have a great day and looking forward to getting to know you

Congradulation on being clean for 106 days its probably a few days more now, that is a great accomplishment, its so hard to get clean, Now comes the part of creating a new life for yourself, don't feel depressed, you have a new chapter in your life, a new beginning to s/ what you want, just sit down peacefully and write down what you want your life to be like, then write the goals necessary to achieve that goal and then write the steps, small and big that you need to do, so now forget the big picture and concentrate on the small goals, woek on them don't look at the whole goal and what it takes to achieve it because it might be overwhelming, concentrate only on the small tasks then the larger steps and so on and then one day you will achieve the goal and look at yourself and feel proud that you accomplisshed this goal, good luck we are here if you need support or anything else

That is a great accomplishment, you should be very proud of yourself! Your doing a great job. Depression during this time is normal and please just look at it for what it is and don't let it hold you back from a new life, a new you. blessings, jenn